A lot of talk will of course follow this news of Funke Akindele's separation from the husband after being married for just over a year. Some are already throwing blames even before any further details have been released, it's either Kehinde Oloyede was a womanizer or Funke may have thought her marriage was a movie romance script.
Now, I don't know about Funke and her husband, but this is what I will tell any one, married or unmarried who is scared when they hear news of marriage break-ups; DON'T BE SCARED.
Before marriage, look before you leap, and if you went in and start seeing something more than you, please consider whether there can be reconcilaition, if not, separation and divorce are great options for peace of mind and happiness. Marriage is not everything.
And yes, men hold the key to a marriage not women. God is love, the fulcrum of marriage is love, and it is men that got that charge in the bible, love your wives, as Christ loves the church! Whether she submits or not love her, and the more you love her, the more you will love her.
In addition to the love that God gives us for our spouses, I am also madam mills and boon, so women and men, romance your partners, inside the bedroom and outside, and you will testify. I wish everyone more love and happiness, marriage is to be enjoyed not endured :)
"...whether she submits or not". You are definitely biased.
ReplyDeleteWomen, submit to your husbands, whether he loves you or not, how about that? mcheeewwww
Ask yourself as a Christian, was it God who loved first, or did He wait for the Church to submit?
DeleteRms 5:8 But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.
Total biase, I must add...........
Delete"..whether he loves you or not"? "Biased'??
ReplyDeleteDid you read that comment before you clicked 'publish'???
Good question.
DeleteI do agree that a man holds the key to a marriage.
ReplyDeleteThanks MSA, many men don't realize this.
Deletea man holds the key to a marriage? I don't think so. A man's input goes a long way even more than the woman's but unless both are going in the same direction, it doesn't matter if the man is golden.
DeleteA part of me is still hoping that she will give a rebuttal.....
ReplyDeleteI hope so too, or they are able to work things out. But the silence...
Deleteit is tough.
ReplyDeletemy older brother is going thru a tough one trying to save his marriage. Im my opinion, his wife, whom I truly love and respect, is still very young and yet to overcome her fantasies.
There will be a lot of regrets later - especially on her part.
That being said, I wish everyone love and happiness. A lot of the happily-ever-after we see and pictures posted on facebook aren't what they seem. A good marriage takes a lot of hard work which many youngsters aren't even aware of -let alone being prepared for it.
God forbid the case of wife battery, but it will take the man to leave the house (for me) -for our marriage to be null and void. He will run and not come back. But I cannot just leave my God-ordained home for lack of patience and at the slightest provocation.
Broken marriages come with a lot of consequences and severance of many relationships including families.
All is well.
Thanks for this comment. I hope your older brother is able to mend his relationship with his wife and save his marriage. If she has fantasies, he should at least try to meet them halfway. That is the way marriage works.
DeleteThese things are now so rampant its scary. But Myne says we shouldn't scare.
ReplyDeleteOk oh.
LOL...don't be. But shine your eyes.
DeleteIt doesn't work like that Myne. What do you call marriage...just playing out a script? No! Marriage is a mutual thing and not 'one must keep loving and loving' even when the other party is busy looking the other way.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, visit my blog: www.revelationaltruth.blogspot.com and read edifying write-ups that build up a man/woman.
Thank you.
It does work like that if the man is determined to save his marriage. He is the head, right? As he loves more and more, it will become mutual.
DeleteMyne - I am assuming that the last 4 paragraphs are not your words; if so it will be good to clarify.
ReplyDeleteThey are my words :)
Delete"marriage is to be enjoyed not endured" best part of the post.will mos def keep that in mind
ReplyDeleteI agree! That line gave me much hope to be able to find love in the future :)
DeleteAfter having gone through a divorce this summer I was so encouraged to read these words at the end of the post: "marriage is to be enjoyed not endured." I tried so hard to make my marriage work by ex was set on leaving. I've been struggling with the idea that marriage is nothing more than two people just putting up with one another and that made me very sad and more than a little disillusioned with the idea of marriage. Now there is a glimmer of hope that there will someone out there who will truly love me unconditionally and will continue to love me, not just put up with me :)
ReplyDeleteMarriage is scary.
ReplyDeleteMarriage is scary, am going through hell with my husband right now
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