What do you think?
Last week I said that on convenient Tuesdays, I will think of a debate topic that should get us talking. Today it is about cheating. If you have any new ideas for us to discuss, let me have them after you've said your piece.
I got this debate topic from Vimbai at My So-called Life. She said in her post It Started with a Kiss
As far as I’m concerned, kissing is a gateway drug to other such preambling antics*...after all, we aren’t 12 years old! Seven seconds in heaven isn’t gonna cut it no more.
What I should have asked X was, if she found herself in the position of catching her significant other engaging in a round of tonsil-hockey with someone else, would her cool and “worldly” demeanour remain intact....or would she be singing Chris Brown’s “Deuces” with the rest of us.
And that is pretty much it. I agree with her. Kissing someone else when you're in another serious relationship is definitely cheating in my books. OK, we can rule out pecks on the cheek, or kisses between family. I mean open mouth affairs, teeth clashing, tongues duelling, you know...one of those scenes in my novel or WIP that gets our bloods heated and pumping.
In fact, I will go further to say that some kinds of flirting will fall in as cheating too. You know when you like or admire someone. You start batting your eyelids, touching their hair or bodies and just getting into their personal space. That is the beginning of emotional and maybe even physical infidelity.
What do you think, can kissing be considered cheating?
Let's hear it in the comments.
In my own opinion, kissing is a very intimate act. So, it is indeed the 'gateway drug to other such preambling antics...' as you put it.
ReplyDeleteIt is not only sex with a person other than ones partner or spouse that amounts to cheating. if a man/woman looks at another LISTFULLY, such a person has cheated! 'Touchery' in a particular way also amounts to cheating. The list goes on and on!
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ReplyDelete@dee, no i am :)
Kissing is cheating! No 2-way about it. I agree with Dee, it's a very intimate act so if you're committed to someone else, you have no business 'tongue-dueling' with anybody else!
ReplyDeleteHey Myne, thank's for the shout-out! Glad to have helped get the ball rolling on this particular topic...
ReplyDeleteFlirting-with-intent is cheating too, heck, there are about 100 sub-categories of cheating. If you're giving the best of yourself emotionally, physically & mentally to someone other than the one you're committed too...you've got some 'splaining to do :-)
yelsk now, it's soooo cheating how many of us like kissing for starters.....me!
ReplyDeleteI think it is unanimous... Kissing is cheating. DEFINITELY. I agree with the comment that kissing is very emotional so when you have that mindset, then it is definitely cheating. If you do something you know you should feel guilty about or hide from your partner, even if you are holding someone else's hand... Then it needs to be checked.
ReplyDeleteKissing is so cheating
ReplyDeleteImo, staring at another girl while with your girlfriend is cheating... talk more kissing
ReplyDelete...now peep this, KISSING is more cheating than even SEX!
ReplyDeleteMHO
Hell yeah! No one can argue that once there's a kiss, the feelings begin to flourish. Yes, definitely cheating.
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Kissing, even a light lip lock without entwined tongues, is definitely a passionate thing. How can someone say it's not cheating? Does she think her boyfriend or partner would be cool with seeing her in a liplock with someone else? I think not! Kissing is just as bad.
ReplyDeleteYup, kissing is def cheating...even high up than sex for me...
ReplyDeletecourse its cheating, as long as there's tongues involved.a light liplock however, doesnt always have to be...
ReplyDeleteMe thinks kissing is cheating if there is someone you're already committed to on the other side....and it doesn't have to be with locked tongues or teeth or whatever else.
ReplyDeleteI totally agree with Vimbai "...If you're giving the best of yourself emotionally, physically & mentally to someone other than the one you're committed too...you've got some 'splaining to do :-)"
of course, it is cheating! i agree with all above..tho some people may go, 'i just kissed her/him, nothing more'..methinks yu culd've very well slept with the person and not say it.
ReplyDeleteof course, it is cheating! i agree with all above..tho some people may go, 'i just kissed her/him, nothing more'..methinks yu culd've very well slept with the person and not say it.
ReplyDeleteLol...Nice topic.
ReplyDeleteWell, in my world, if u kiss someone else and enjoy it, and even want more..then its cheating.
If you dont enjoy it (it could have been even accidental) and you stop it asap, then its not
IT IS SO CHEATING THAT IS IF U HAVE A SERIOUS ENGAGEMENT WITH SOME ONE ELSE.
ReplyDeleteKissing is definitely cheating! It is an emotional act and it involves more of the mind and soul than a sexual act. So in my opinion the day u kiss another check ur relationship if u av one!
ReplyDeleteKissing is definitely cheating, it may not be enough reason to break up a marriage/relationship if its just kissing that is, but its still cheating
ReplyDeleteThere seems to be an unanimous agreement on this one. No worldly people here? LOL...
ReplyDeleteOK I see Hedonistic and Zel, light lip locks are exempt as well as if you just tried it once and did not enjoy it. The second one makes sense sha...but I'm not sure.
Is the other person on the same page?
Yessss kissing is DEFINITELY cheating no second thoughts sef!
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ReplyDeleteThis is not a question!
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ReplyDeleteThis is not a question!
Like you mentioned kissing is a preamble to more activities. Kissing is a very very intimate act, so for me, kissing is cheating.
ReplyDeleteTisha, very obvious answer you mean? LOL...
ReplyDeleteI often wonder, why do people consider kissing more intimate than sex sometimes?
Hmmm..
I so echo Dee's comment!
ReplyDeleteKissing? Thats the 'teaser' of cheating before the main 'movie'!
it is still cheating big time o! ...na from there the koko go happen!
ReplyDeleteso what would i do if i caught them?....i would not cause a scene but that will be the end to the kissing in our relationship because i don't know where else his tongue had been to....*wink-wink*
I seem to remember the holy book asking us to greet one another with a holy kiss. :)
ReplyDeleteMore seriously, it usually is the prelude to more serious things....
kissing is not cheating,it's just kissing.
ReplyDeleteOh wow...kissing is so cheating. Imagining my hubby or boo kissing another gurl and keeping it a secret all in the name in "it was just a kiss" would be the end of that boo and if my hubby then he'd be in some serious type of TIME-OUT...lol..
ReplyDeleteIn short before I write a whole post here...kissing is definitely cheating and Myne I agree with u, flirting too is cheating jo. #hifive
kissing another who is not the significant other???..........
ReplyDeleteHell yeah it's cheating!
@H, #Hifive dear. Serious time out indeed.
ReplyDelete@Nitty G, you're one naughty woman, lol...that tongue needs to be washed o, I tell you.
@QuTe, Holy Kiss my foot. Yeah so just go ahead and peck on the cheek then, #stillakiss
LOL @ HYAW "staring at another girl while with your girlfriend is cheating"
ReplyDeleteso is it okay to do it when the girlfriend is not around? Personally I don't think that is cheating.
But yeah, kissing is cheating.
heck yes. kissing is cheating. even when we get emotionally involved w/ someone other than our SOs, that's considered cheating. It's still crossing a line that should not be crossed cause you're right, kissing is a gateway that can often times lead to more.
ReplyDeleteWithout a doubt it's cheating!
ReplyDeleteIt is unanimous. It is cheating. My own question would then be... Is having attraction/feelings for another person cheating?
ReplyDelete- LDP
In answer to LDP;
ReplyDeleteI don't think it is...well, unless you decide to act on it?
Kissing is a serious act for me. I would rather he/she had sex with another person without kissing being involved.
ReplyDeleteKissing is to me the most intimate act. It's how you and your lover say good morning, goodnight, I love you.
Kissing is cheating.
Unanimous indeed.
ReplyDelete@LDP, I don't think so too. Now if you act on it by calling the person, confiding emotional stuff, etc...that might be cheating.
Most def! Kissing is cheating. Can you kiss in a vacuum? meaning can you kiss without having previous fantasies about the whole thing. the cheating dint just start with the kiss, it started looong before then.
ReplyDeleteKissing is most definitely cheating but flirting I don't totally agree with ...
ReplyDeleteKissing is definitely cheating, i dont know about more than sex but though. personally I feel like kissing is cheating on both a physical level and emotional one too.
ReplyDeletethis is not about being considered..it is cheating!
ReplyDeleteHow have you been,Myne?
Unanimous. It's an intimate affair and definitely cheating.
ReplyDeleteofcourse!
ReplyDelete...lol, miss whitman asking questions about things you already know!
Kissing is not cheating.......KIDDING!!! It is so cheating. I think it is even more intimate then sex...
ReplyDeleteBlessings....
ReplyDeleteVery simply "Yes" A kiss is foreplay and of course a kiss can be anywhere not just the lips. A kiss is very sensual, very intimate for God sakes they are swapping spit!
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ReplyDeleteKissing is certainly cheating IMO. It is very intimate, and a preamble to so much more..
ReplyDeleteI have a friend who says kissing doesn't count, and if you aren't in the same country what ever goes down with someone who isn't ur partner doesn't count....excuses!
kissing means ur have or u r developn emotions for the person. which is bad news for the other party. I can easily forgive my husband if he just did a wham-bang-thank-you-mam thingy. than when he actually does the whole kissing, and cuddling after the sex....that would kill me.
ReplyDeleteDefinitely cheating. Nothing justifies this one.
ReplyDeleteSeriously tho, how can kissing not be cheating?
ReplyDeleteSomeone enlighten me pls LOL
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