How To Keep The Fire Burning After Years Of Marriage

By Marty Jimenez

Marriage is a long road that definitely has its ups and downs. A common issue in most marriages,  usually after many years, is a loss of "spark". The following are ways to keep your marriage strong for all the years that you and your partner are together:


Date Night
Making time for one another in a relationship, especially a marriage, is incredibly important. Everyday life is busy, as everyone knows. It can be difficult to make time for things, even when they're things you want to do. The same is true when trying to make time for your partner. A good way to make time for one another is to plan an ongoing weekly date night. This can be anything that they two of you enjoy doing together. It can be the typical dinner and a movie date, or it can be something that is specific to your relationship and your hobbies. Whatever it is that you and your partner decide to do, the important thing is that you do it together. Spending this time is a great way to rekindle your love life.

Affection
In order to keep the love alive in your very special marriage, it's important that the affection still be present in the relationship. Even small forms of affection like a regular morning kiss or the addition of a little daily flirting will take your relationship to new heights. These small signs of love mean much more than the actual action itself. It means that the love is not gone. It means the attraction is not gone.

Kindness
To make your partner feel special, and therefore loved, it's a good idea to participate in small acts of kindness that your partner will appreciate. It will make the person you love feel important to you. It will also show them that you care about their needs and desires. Feeling appreciated makes one feel closer to another person, and feeling closer to your partner is the first step toward keeping your love strong for as long as you are together.

Talk
It's important in any and every marriage to maintain active communication. This communication is not just limited to the big things in your and your partner's lives. Knowing someone on a day-to-day level is important when truly trying to know a person. Not only will this daily conversation give you more insight into the life of your lover, but it will also make them feel as though you care about them in every aspect of their life.

Getaway
If the spark starts to subside, there are a multitude of ways to reignite it, and some can happen a little more quickly than others. One way to spark this fire quickly if you and your partner feel it starting to fade is a weekend away. This will give you one-on-one time with your partner to reconnect on a more intimate level. For many, a couple of days isn't long enough to make any kind of impression, so if that's the case, consider a long weekend or even a week somewhere secluded!


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Marty Jimenez writes all about romance, relationships and communication. Her recent work is on Online Christian Counseling Degrees.