"Why do millions of smart, savvy, successful men fall helplessly in love with women who are destined to break their hearts? Who are these Bad Girls, poised to pounce on the next nice guy just waiting to become their prey? While Bad Girls have different strategies for manipulating nice guys, they share certain alluring traits. Irresistibly exciting, clever, flirtatious, and seductive, they make their man feel like the sexiest, most invincible stud on the planet! They take what they want---money, sex, drugs, or other objects of desire---and leave these unsuspecting men in the dust."
Above is from the description of one of the books below by Dr Carole Lieberman on lessons other women can learn from Bad girls. There are even more books saying the same thing. But before we go into all that, is it true that they really get all the guys?
All these books and more seem to think so. What say ye?
I simply love that Bad Girl Badge. Really awesome. Going to check out the books now.
ReplyDeleteYeah,guys fall for Bad Girls because these girls know what the guys want and give it to them even if they don't want anything from the relationship.It happens in the reverse too you know,girls fall for bad guys.Humans just like chasing after what they can't have,be it men or women.
ReplyDeletePlease what is the definition and characteristics of a bad girl in this instance (relationship).
ReplyDeletesorry if this is obvious but i dont know cuz i am a good girl and got myself a good boy :D
seriousily i want to know the characteristics. thanks
@Wendy, you didn't answer the question though, :(
ReplyDelete@9ja-great, that is true. But I don't think it happens all the time.
@Aloted, are you sure you're a good girl? lol...
myne, you wan try me?
ReplyDeleteI am as good as they come o.
but then again, thats why i was asking what the xteristics are so i know if i have some traits and that was wat caught the good boy.
so answer me pls...
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meanwhile i sent u email o
Who cares about a girl who seems to get "all the guys"? I don't really want a man who is so easily manipulated by this kind of a woman. So let her have the suckers. I need real man who can decipher real love from fake :)
ReplyDelete@Aloted, I almost forgot. Will reply soon. As for characteristics and stuff, I may yet write a real post.
ReplyDelete@NaijaAmerican, I agree, there are men and there are men.
Whate defines "Bad" and "Good".......I think some girls just have "Ori Okunrin" no matter what their character is. lol.
ReplyDeletefirst of all i am going to get the book and consume it. loll
ReplyDeletei heard somewhere: " that bad girls always know good guys and go after them, what they see the good girls miss it out either cos they are usually naive i cant say.
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9jafoodie, that is true.
ReplyDelete@Tamunoibifiri, now I do have to write an article on this topic, lol..
Sorry about that Myne. I think bad girls get the good guys but not all the guys.
ReplyDeleteI for instance was always drawn to bad boys even though they constantly broke my heart. i even managed to marry a half redeemed one and that's why when he forgets himself sometimes i tell myself i know what i was getting myself into. I had my share of good guys who wanted to date me but I ran for the hills. I remember in 2000 one of the first Nigerians I met back home in Cape Town wanted to date me. He was from one of your more studious tribes (i don't know if Yoruba or Hausa) and his ideal evening would be spend studying, cooking and discussing quantum physics.
I found him boring beyond belief to be honest and we never even managed to go on one date and my best friend could not understand why I disliked him so much and I couldn't explain. He probably works for NASA now but I assure you I'd have seen no stars there even kissing him.
Bad boys or girls balance each other out. They are daring so they challenge you to explore life, the excitement they generate in infectious. But the good in their boring partner balances them out I think (i do think I'm quite boring).
But Myne you could tell us more on this topic. I do think as much as you try to be good, you are in actual fact a very very bad girl. That's why we're all attracted to you. I think you hubby has a HUGE handful there girl. LOLOLEST
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ReplyDeleteI think the bad girls theory is kinda overated. Its like someone coming up with a philosophy that seems to make sense. But one thing with philosophies are that another person eventually comes up with another theory that debunks the initial one.
ReplyDeleteIts true that bad girls can be so sexy, alluring and have one way or the other around men...but I think that's one stereotype amongst others. Reminds me of some time ago when I wrote an article about the 'Assistant Boyfriend' and all of a sudden it applied to so many guys...lol. Come up with a smart theory that's kinda true and you'll set a trend. I think thats what these authors are cashing on.
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ReplyDeleteEvery good girl needs a bit of a bad girl thing in her.... I heard on the TV show "Married to Rock" that a woman should be these 3 things.
ReplyDelete1. A chef in the kitchen
2. Home maker in the living room
3. Whore in the bedroom
maybe this would help! some women are sooo good that they think talking dirty with your man is a sin! its not o! whatever a woman does to seduce her husband is holy! cos to the pure all things are?? Pure!!
Back in school, it was easy to define 'bad girl' and good girrl those who gave it up easily (sex) and those who didnt. Maybe it is still the same criteria we use now?? eg. Good girl gives it up for love. Bad girl makes sure she gets a reward (be it a ring on the finger or a promotion). And this attitude is applied in all spheres of life. It's all about attitude.
ReplyDeleteYou will get a guy just like yourself...
ReplyDeleteMy dear, you are what you perceive yourself as
I personally accept my biblical definition
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