I gave my life to Jesus in my final year in school 2007, and since than I’ve stayed with God faithfully. I am born again and serving God faithfully, I judge him faithful who has kept me this far. Am 30 years old, single and never been married. Every year of my life men come in and out of my life, they come in batches asking my hand in marriage but after praying to God to choose the best for me none will eventually marry me (reason that I refuse to have sex with them that’s for some, while others won’t say why they left).
I really want to keep myself till my wedding night though I am no longer a virgin (lost it in school before i gave my live to Christ). I am tired because this challenge is really depressing me and is affecting my walk with God seriously. I don’t want this batch upon batches of suitors again, I just want my own HUSBAND to come. Please pray for me I am really loosing hope.
What else can I do to keep hope and faith alive?
As a born again christian there r better medium to get consel on issues like this.U need to know dt d type of men u attract to urself by way of dressing,comportment,assocition etc.There is no truly born again Christian who is abiding in Christ dt will leave u bcos u say no to pre-marital sex.
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ReplyDeleteI think it is great that you're honouring God by not giving into the pressure of sexual immorality. However, if you've prayed to God and these men eventually leave you, it is a good thing because those men would probably lead you astray and would be a lot more heartache than being single. My advice is to hang on and don't give up. Read Colossians 3 and be encouraged. Think about things above where Christ is! Also read 2 Corinthians 7, especially from verse 32. Use your singleness as an opportunity to serve God and serve others and perhaps at the right time, a godly man would come. Don't seek after marriage too hard which belongs to this world so that the evil one or your sinful flesh will not get you off track and disqualify you from the prize (1 Corinthians 9:24-27). Ask God to give you the Grace to look forward to His coming and serving Him. Remember Paul was single so being single doesn't mean God doesn't love you. This may be the best thing for you right now. You may not like it but ask God to keep you faithful and to strengthen you that you don't fall. Take care and God bless.
ReplyDeleteDear, listen to Robyn here. Take it from someone who feels you. Don't get worked up about getting married. Continue to serve God faithfully and He'll grant u ur heart's desires.Now, I stop myself when I want to start praying 'husband prayer' because I feel this tug at my heart. And the Holy Spirit reminds me of kingdom work. Cos,let's face it, if you are a believer u have to know that souls are lost daily. I'd love to be married and God wants that for me too. However, He is very concerned about the lost so what am I saying? Continue to seek FIRST, the Kingdom of God and His righteousness and all other things will be added. Meet God's needs, He'd meet yours. God bless you. Will keep you in my prayers. And don't forget that there's no marriage in eternity. Let's lay up treasures that last for eternity.
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DeleteI think you should keep on praying. God is never too late in his time. At appointed time, He will do it. Wait patiently, trust in Him and lean on Him.
ReplyDeleteFor He knows the Plans He has for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.
Your time will come. Don't get tired of waiting.
ReplyDeleteGod has not and will never forget you.....just keep trusting him.....Sometimes, our attitude in the time of challenges determines God how fast God may respond to us...don't curse your singlehood!!!..just be blessing and praising God....Praises moves the heart of God.....Also, take it away from your mind, try not to think about it more often, get your mind occupied....learn a new hobby, and be so committed to it....go out and have fun....we don't always have to wait for a man to take us out on a date....date urself!!!!..go out on a date alone...eat ,enjoy ,smile!!!.. pamper urself!!!!.In addition, there are always delays sometimes if there is an area of your life God wants you to deal with ,it could be an habit or anything....remember Esther had to grow through all sort of physical cleansing before she saw the king....pray and continue in his presence, and he will always speak to you....Finally, it's not how far, it's how well!!!!.some marry early and rush out of it!!...Be patient...your time will surely come..God loves you!!!!....Much love!!!
ReplyDeleteNever lose hope. First you have to stop focusing on getting a husband and focus on enjoying life. When you're happy trust me, the guy will come to you. Men can sense desperation and right now you seem really desperate. Calm down and trust in God. You're young and still have loads of time.
ReplyDeleteIf a man leaves you because you wouldn't sleep with him, then he was never serious. He was just looking for an excuse.
ReplyDeleteI was a 36 year old virgin when I got married to the best 31 year old man in the world. I've been married now for one year with a baby on the way and I'm the happiest woman in the world. My marriage is great and my husband and his family respect me.
Truth is that my being a virgin was never the reason why I didn't get married on time, it was simply because I didn't meet that great guy till I was 35. Different men proposed at different times and I was almost getting married to a man with a lot of luggage out of fear that I was getting too old before my husband walked into my life and stayed on.
If you ever think of giving it, just think how bad you'll feel if he still leaves after you've slept with him.
keep living your life, don't feel old, focus on your job, don't go 'looking' for a husband, your man will come when he will and when he does, he'll be happy and proud that you've been celibate.
All the best.
My heart goes out to you. Live life, enjoy, laugh, smile often and have fun. There's nothing wrong with you my sister.
ReplyDeleteWhile other posters encourage you biblically, I'll ask you to evaluate your lifestyle, social skills and how people view you (not asking you to be like anyone else). When I was celibate last year, a guy told me that I'm wasting my time. No man will marry me afterall I'm not a virgin so I laughed. I submitted 100% to God. Hello? Look at me now ... I'm not single.
Stick with your principles while making yourself approachable. Go out and have fun. No man will come into your living room to ask you out. Wear a smile and start conversations with guys you like. I hope all works out well for you in due season. Remain blessed.
Interesting a friend of mine who is 35 was complaining about not having a GF/Fiancee at this stage of his life. I told him those that wait most times make the right decision. I am sure this applies to you. Trust me, GOD will make all things good in his time.
ReplyDeleteAnon May 10, 3:29 PM, could you kindly introduce your friend to her? You can get her contact from Myne. After the soothing words, we can act too. god bless you as you do.
DeleteIf they left you because you refused to have sex with them, it is a good thing. Keep praying to God and enjoy life. Don't be desperate or you will run into the arms of just anyone who comes your way. Don't just get into a relationship for the sake of getting into one. You have to pick and choose the guys you date - they should be serious about you and interested in marriage. Are they ready to settle down? Are they true christians? Do you see the signs of true commitment from them? These are the things you should ask yourself.
ReplyDeleteAll the best to you. Cheers.
- Opinionated Gal has spoken!
I understand the pressure you must be facing, all I want to say is that you should allow God work His prefect will in your life. For me from the beginning of this year I learnt to let Him direct my life, instead of telling Him what I wanted to happen. And I thank Him everyday for the people He brings my way, people who inspire me to be better than before, people who want to help me get better, people who I can relate with on a spiritual level, peopla who are blessed by me. And I know God makes all things beautiful in His time. He'll do so for you, definitely. Just try to bless the people around you with all that God has placed inside of you, and watch as miracles happen in your life.
ReplyDeleteI think everyone has spoken well nd given u good counsel.Wait on d Lord nd He'll perfect all dat concerns u.My story is not one u'll smile over after listening to it.I got into an early marriage without seeking d face of God nd now,am d saddest woman on earth.Don't know wether to move forward or backward.Am scared of leaving after 5kids.My husband is a horror for any woman.If I had waited on d Lord,I wouldn't be in dis condition now.Pls sister,wait nd keep praying,God'll give u a man that'll make u happy.Keep busy,engage in activities u derive joy from,be happy nd serve God with all ur heart nd be sure He'll surprise u when u least expect it.Remain blessed my dear!
ReplyDeleteIn the bible is nt evri dat got married bt if is God will u d right pesi will
ReplyDeleteCome just continue prayin
In the bible is nt evri dat got married bt if is God will u d right pesi will
ReplyDeleteCome just continue prayin
Myne am suggesting match-making kind of,the comment of Anonymous 3:29pm opens doors for matching making for our friend(the poster) and Anonymous 3:29pm friend.Serious who knows something good or even better might happen.
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