When you're in the crowd where two people say their "I dos", the assumption is that they must have known each other well enough, possible dated or courted for several months at least, discussed all the issues and topics that may impact their relationship, and have agreed to take each other, warts and all.
This is not always the case however, as this witness to a marriage that lasted two days shared on this FB Page. His testimony;
Mehnnn things are happening ooo! A marriage that lasted for 2days and both went seperate ways.the husband after the wedding on saturday @ night asked the wife to change her sim card and close all her accounts on any social network she operates.the wife felt that if the husband acted due to lack of trust,then there was no points marrying her in the first place.all efforts to make them see reason fell on deaf ears,even the pastor who joined dem was called to rescue the marriage but could'nt succeed.the wife said she could not stay in a marriage where there is no trust so she packed her belongings and left.What a World!!!
Was the wife right to have taken this decision? Why did the husband wait till after the marriage to state how seriously her social media activities bothered him? What is even more worrisome is that some people, a lot actually, believe the wife was wrong, and heap ALL the blame on her head. Seriously?
A Male Commenter - See how westernization & modern life is destroying girls in africa. In Africa, women are to totally submissive to men, that was why u hardly hear of divorce during our forefathres, but now, women place westernization above marriage. If the story is virtually real, the lady in question is not marriageable. She should have simply done wht the husband requires of her then later find reasons to convince her man on why she wants to keep the social network. Its only weak ladies that cannot convince a man. Men are equally soft minded but always insist on them being respect at all time. A women argues her husband bcos she lack power to melt the heart of her husband. This is one big factor that leads to fatal breakup. That lady made a big mistake cos the man has the right to ask her to shutdown her social network on reasonable grounds. Marriage is never a joke & a girl that allows such reason to marr her marriage is a fool.
Please, these marriage from hell stories are getting too much, let's discuss.
I am speechless, things are really happening in this world. The man just came out of the cave, but he jam lorry. Pshewww...
ReplyDeleteI can't even believe this is true. If the tale is true, then I think these two already saw the writing on the wall. The social media thing is just a cover over for the fact that deep down they know they are incompatible.
ReplyDelete@ The commenter about submisison, that is the reason those mariages lasted, because those women had no recourse; no law, family to take them in, no jobs that provided financial independence. Basically, if they married a brute they were stuck with it until they died. Many of these loser men are miffed because they can't just get a wife anymore based on their male privilege, now they have to bring something more than their d!ck to the table.
you are right!! that was just a cover up.. they must have piled up lots of things but decided to use that as a cover up..COMMUNICATION was their problem, if this is a real story..
DeleteIt's very sad the way. We are slowly losing our culture by the day.there may have been some characters the man may have seen but didn't want to make an issue of atleast until he had full authority.i am a woman but I don't see what the guy did wrong.he must have really loved her to have had an issue with a part of her behavior but still went on with the marriage.we are not perfect but I see nothing wrong with taking correction from your husband.like another person said,women are actually the stronger beings and some have failed to realize that if a man loves you then there is nothing you cannot get from him.its just a matter of knowing when to brooch the topic.if I were her I would have quickly accepted and even apologised that I am sorry he didn't like it then slowly and strategically cajole him into keeping them.yes! It's possible.as long as my conscience is clear.the problem in this instance is why was it a big problem for the girl to accept,is she amongst the people who get married and still have one leg outside? If not what is the big deal that would make her pack her bags after 2days?if whatever she does is a problem for this husband then it will be a problem for the next guy she packs to too..and if she can't work it with this,how can she work it out with the next one..men are all the same..somehow..
ReplyDeleteIs this what you call real love? God help us! This is why some men will beat Nigerian women to a pulp and she will seat there and accept it. As a show of love too! Wow!
DeleteYou do not wait to be married first before you address matters that are important to you. If something about your partner annoys you, why would you wait until after you are married before you address it? Is that in any way logical to you? Which normal man has the time to think about social media accounts and sim card on their wedding night? That should have been the last thing on his mind, because he should have been busy blowing out his wife's back, instead this idiot has technology on his damn mind. But he wants to leave his woman dry in every way. Loser! The wife dodged a major bullet, better two days than twenty years of misery!
DeleteIf this is a tru story, we have to be patient. This might not be the end of the marriage yet. Both of them have their own roles to play and may just need people they respect to wade into on the matter so they can see sense.
ReplyDeleteWho is talking about beating here?was it written anywhere that he beat her? I thot it said he asked her..its this new found stubbornness found in women nowadays that causes more and more breakup of marriages.like some1 commented,marriages lasted more in the olden days cos women saw their husbands as their heads,just as it is written in the bible.but now women want to do what they want to do and which brings on a reaction from the men,tell me how can a marriage last with two captains on one ship.one must step down for there to be peace.like its said,if u marry a man that truly loves you,he will give his life for you,if you obey a man and give him his due respect,he will let you be the captain of the ship effortlessly
ReplyDeleteIt is from clap that dance enters. From asking her, he will order her, and then he will try to beat her into submission!
Deletei agree with you; why wait to get married before addressing these issue. I see the man as being insecure as such even if she had gone ahead to delete the contacts and throw away the sims it still wouldn't give him peace of mind cos he doesn't trust her enough to hold her own. then they would begin to have issues.
DeleteWomen didn't seek divorce in the past cos they didn't have adequate education to keep them on their own and they also didn't get family, group support. Its different now........any man who wants a zombie for a wife should search for a wife in the village!!!!
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I don't agree with you.not every discussion or argument that ends in a fight.if you are not married then I am sure you have a boyfriend.does he beat you each time you 2 have a disagreement? Or do you change boyfriends eachtime you have an argument? No.two mature people can have an argument or disagreement that doesn't result to a fight or beat.to me beating a woman is the only situation that is unacceptable by me.for that I can leave a man,but not disobedience,as a woman if u say you love or know God then u will obey your husband.thats what God has commanded.simple.and if you make social network important in ur live,dont forget the owner of FB mark zukerberg is married!!lol
ReplyDeleteSeriously some pple make no sense when making comments. That is def no luv or trust does he want to control her life in d name of luv? Utter rubbish d man had ulterior motives if u ask me. Its good she left cos mayb he wud hav askd to be a signatory to all her accounts and keep her debit cards n pin. Mscheeew.....Control freak. Wha da hell!!!!
ReplyDeletewait o, am I reading comments correctly that this woman was right to have left over such a trivial matter. Yes, trivial! Do you know how men have their wives snooping through their phones and online accounts? Do you know that lots of women ask their husbands to prove their trust by giving them the password to their online accounts? If a man did the same and walked away from a marriage because his wife asked him to close his social media accounts, y'all would castigate the man die.
ReplyDeleteI'm not saying what he did was right but these two had a greater problem beyond trust. We are talking here based on what we know which is that he asked her to close her accounts, she said no and she left. So y'all commenting, being asked to what you don't want to do = walking out? An adult should be able to make rational actions and not act in the heat of the moment. A more rational and less hot-headed bride might have sulked to express her displeasure but walk out? Even if the man did something really bad, I think you should be able to respect your wedding guests enough to give it a week and see if things can be worked out.
Abeg we are dealing with a hotheaded wife here, forget that trust thing. Trust issues need to be worked out but to cut the head because of headache? Please this is stupid feminism. And this is coming from someone who would probably tell the man okay you close yours I close mine. If he says no, then I will tell him he is not serious and leave his presence. But to begin with, how do you not know that your spouse to be has control issues?
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DeleteVery objective and fair reply
DeleteThere is definitely more to the story than this. I believe he was trying to isolate her which raises the question,was he trying to isolate her from everyone or just from men?
DeleteD way ppl comment actually surprises me.1. is dat marriage is nt only d responsibility of a woman bt both of dem. 2. Is d fact dat d guy wld probably av known she had dat side of her(if true as d story claims) bt 4 im 2 stil marry ha means dere was smetn else he saw in ha.No 3 bin dat in oda ppl's marriage av learnt nt 2 intavene cuz u wld b surprisd wat couple disagree on. No 4. Does who commentd dat westernization has made women submissive i ask d men av u not lost ur places and responsibilities too? When it comes 2 being in charge dat is wen we see our men's head up bt i ask hw many ppl can actually act d man(face dose challenges) mst men wldn't mind spendn dia wives income, she shld do house chores n stil b submissive (she b d man, woman in d house n stil b submissive).I bet d reasons y mst ppl respect n r submissive 2 dia parents is cuz of dia parents didn't misplace dia responsibilities. If our women r no longa submissive it means our men no longa knw dia priorities. Mind u dere's mre 2 d clash dan d issue of social netwrk n i throw d questn 2 d guy if he knew he didn't trust d gal y did he marry ha + researches av shown dat d possesive 1 in a relatnshp is actualy d cheat.
ReplyDeleteThe man must have dated the woman,I suppose.Ultimately,the early breakup of his 2-day-old marriage is his fault.For me,not because he asked his wife to close her social media accounts.But because he ended up marrying a woman who had no flexibility.More information might be needed to get to the root cause of the breakup in this specific instance.There must have been signs at courtship which Mr.Man ignored.
ReplyDeleteYou are correct. There is a huge difference between being standing up for your rights as a woman and just being an inflexible, hot-headed woman.
DeleteI think d man has no right whatsoever to ask her 2 close her social media accnts nd chng ha sim, dats lyk teln ha 2 chng ha entire lyf cos she married him. Chngn sim dats cutting off every oda contact u hv asides him. Wat nxt 4 ha to b totally dependent on him so he can wlk ova her. If he wznt comfy wiv ha social lyf dere r more suitable ways 2 broach d subject. Nd som1 commented on african women being submissive, it shld be noted dat submission does nt mean stupidity. If u wnt a woman lyk dose in ur forefadas generation den u v 2 go bac 2 dat tym.
ReplyDeleteyour shorthand can kill someone. see me frowning just to understand what you wrote. this shorthand business is getting out of hand walahi
Deleteas much as i think the woman took extreme steps walking out of her marriage, am curious, would the husband have deleted his own social accounts and changed his sim card too? if BOTH of them can't settle such insignificant issues as owning a social media network with third party interference in their 'just starting' marriage, then i think they had no business getting married to each other in the first place. wow! what would happen if they stayed longer in the marriage and faced more serious issues of marriage? kill themselves? Gosh!!!
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ReplyDeleteThis stoty actually made me speechless for a while. Trust should be the bedrock of every relationship/marriage. That issue would have been discussed the period they were dating or courting ie only if the wife has other relationships with men on social network and on her fone. But apart from that, I don't see a reason why he would tell her 2 close all accounts on social network. I have a friend who's about getting married soon, she has a lot of male frnds who she's dated or had something to do with in d past and chikers, she ws like imm she says I do, she'll change her sim cos she doesn't wnt men calling her frequently in her matrimonial home n making that create problem for her hubby.
ReplyDeleteWhy r men so selfish is he going to throw his own sim card or wat dat is too bad making d first nyt of ur marriage war instead of enjoyment wicked man. For sim card to dnt talk to any body till I say so fool.
ReplyDeleteThe story's funny and pathetic. The lady was too strong headed and the guy wasn't honest about his thoughts before the wedding. Also, there might be other things they're covering up with this flimsy excuse. If the guy hadn't mentioned his thoughts bout her phone lines and social media before marriage, that's kinda being dishonest and if he had, and she ignored, then she's a Joker! Even in relationships, there are times when one might question their partners fidelity or something because of curiosity and others, does that mean there wasn't trust at all. Both of them are unserious and not ready for the marriage pls! I have a friend whose own dad personally bought her 2 new Sims and asked that she changed her surname in all social media!!! I rotf and laughed ehn! If someone's dad can do that, then what are we saying here?
ReplyDeleteThe lady is just been stubborn,not smart and not ready to settle down. things like dis are done maturely if your husband says he does not want it fine there must be a reason and if u feel you still have unfinished business on social networks then change your name on it un-friend your husband and friends if they are on your friend list, then you do your things codded . As for the sim i think its for her own good. i think d the lady still has someone promising her heaven on earth
ReplyDeleteThe man is a coward...why didn't he raise the issue before marriage?The fact that he as raised it on their wedding night shows that he has been waiting to trap her in the marriage so that he can lord it over her.
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