Nomthi Odukoya On How She Met Pastor Taiwo, 5 Years of Marriage & Being a Mother

Nomthi Odukoya, wife of Pastor Taiwo Odukoya, the founder of the Fountain of Life Bible church, has opened up on their five years of marriage and turning 40. The couple were married in January 2010, with the wedding getting a mixed reaction from church members and the general public alike. This was because Pastor Taiwo had lost his first wife, Pastor Bimbo Odukoya in December 10th 2005 in a national tragedy.

Pastor Bimbo died in a tragic plane crash leaving behind 3 young children. She had been well loved for here “Single & Married” ministry which changed lives, and helped heal and build relationships around Nigeria and Africa. With time however, her husband and those who loved her learnt to move on.

And after 5 years of marriage, the new Mrs. Odukoya, who is originally from South Africa, says she feels accepted by the church and at home in Nigeria. Read excerpts from her interview with Punch newspaper below. The mom of two talks about how she met her husband, her new family, being a step mother and wife to a pastor and more...

On marrying a pastor;

“I did not know I was going to serve God in this capacity. I was against it because I thought pastors were responsible for peoples’ lives. I believed it was a burden too much to bear and I did not want to be held accountable if people did not live according to the gospel of Christ. I felt serving God and supporting the gospel in whatever way I could, was enough. I did not see myself in a leadership position in a country other than South Africa for that matter.”

 On how they met;

“He came to minister at Triumphant Church International, London where I worshiped. I did not have my eyes on him, because like every other minister that had come before him, I saw him as a man of God. I found his message amazing and absorbing. I even bought one of his books -Home Affairs.

After the conference, my pastor told me someone was interested in me. I declined because I was seeing someone then. The relationship eventually did not work out and I informed my pastor but not immediately.

To cut the long story short, Pastor Taiwo had a stopover in London and that was the first time we met. Before then, my pastor had given him my telephone number and he had called me.

When he proposed to me, I did not like the idea of getting married to a widower. I took my time, prayed about it and I became convinced it was what God wanted for me.

Being married to him is amazing and it has brought out potentials, I never knew I had. I don’t have to pray and say Lord help my husband go to church today. There is no struggle.”

On being married for five years;

“I would be lying if I said, I am not snowed under. I think I am just who I am. I focus more on God’s expectations of me and my personal expectations. I am wise and understand that God has given us people to help us. I don’t overstress myself and I allow people to assist when necessary.”

On being compared to late Pastor Bimbo Odukoya;

“Everybody is comfortable in their own skin and I understand that God has different callings and purposes for people. All we need to do is fulfil our purpose and celebrate other peoples calling. Fountain of Life Church is a wonderful one; they have accepted me for who I am. You would think I have been there forever.”

On relationship with her step-children;

“They are good children and I am a good step-mother. We have accepted each other but that is not to say we don’t have our issues as a family. What you can’t take away from us, is that we love each other.”

On turning 40;

“At 40, I have not achieved all I want to, but I am happy where I am. I try to work out as often as I can and when its relaxation time, I read books and listen to worship music. I look for clothes that call my name. I think clothes have a character and tell a story so I wear only clothes that tell my story.”