Femi Fani-Kayode Blames Oscar Pistorius's Girlfriend

Oscar Pistorius and Reeva Steencamp

Not only did Femi Fani-Kayode blame Reeva Steenkamp for her death, he also belittled her life and work, labeling her with all those names insecure "I must be an alpha male by force" types use for beautiful and/or opinionated women. Fani-Kayode is a former Nigerian minister, and still speaks and engages in some online political and social activism. He also seems to be a religious type, and some people consider him a moral role model. Well, as they say, we learn everyday. What a beauty social media is.

Femi Fani-Kayode wrote the message below on his Facebook page after the Feb. 14 event involving Oscar Pistorius and his now-dead girlfriend, Reeva Steencamp.

I have little doubt that Pistorius, who was a great achiever, a living icon, the greatest and best known African sportsman in world history and an absolute gentleman, was provoked into a murderous rage by his pretty little lover and that she played on his insecurities and inadequacies. These are the classic traits of the biblical “strange woman”- the destroyer of men’s dreams and destinies.

Only God knows who sent this creature from the sea into this great man’s life just to destroy it. For Pistorius it is all over. In one moment of blind rage he has lost everything and he has brought shame, disgrace, sorrow and infamy upon his name and that of his family. The blood he has shed will speak against him and his lineage forever. And all because of a sexy and pretty little model who the devil sent his way.

May the Lord deliver us all from the daughters of Jezebel, Delilah, Athalia and Yemoja".

Kefee's Beautiful - Music Video Romance

I am sure this was dedicated to her husband, lovely!

Beyonce Talks Miscarriage and Motherhood in HBO Documentary

Beyonce and Blue Ivy 

Beyonce's HBO documentary, Life Is But a Dream, is premiering today at 9 p.m. EST. In the run up to the show, screen shots of Beyonce carrying Blue Ivy have been released as  seen in the picture above. According to USMagazine, Beyonce also talks about an earlier miscarriage and how she got over it through writing songs.

"About two years ago, I was pregnant for the first time," the 17-time Grammy Award winner says. "And I heard the heartbeat, which was the most beautiful music I ever heard in my life. I picked out names," Beyonce continues. "I envisioned what my child would look like . . . I was feeling very maternal."

Sadly, something went wrong in the early stages of her pregnancy. "I flew back to New York to get my check up -- and no heartbeat," Beyonce says. "Literally the week before I went to the doctor, everything was fine, but there was no heartbeat."

I'm happy for her that the next pregnancy was a success. She looks great with Blue Ivy, who BTW, looks more like JayZ, the dad, than Beyonce :)

No to N4b Mission House for the Nigerian First Lady

More and more, it seems that civil society and activism and Nigeria are being revived, and I can't wait till they become effective and powerful. The 2013 Budget currently before the Nigerian house of assembly has a provision for N4BN to build a Mission house where other First Ladies would be hosted if and when they visit Nigeria. I say rubbish! What about all the hotels and government guesthouses all over Abuja?

Some people under the Women Arise initiative have marched in protest against this. According to reports,
the group was led by Dr. Joe Okei Odumankin to the office of Lagos State’s Governor, Mr. Babatunde Fashola. Joining him were Festus Keyamo, Mrs. Abosede Ransome Kuti, and the Director of Gender and Development Action, Mrs. Ada Agina Ude. Good on them.

N4BN can do so much for the women, in terms of creating jobs, small capital, etc. Building an edifice for a handful of women is very wasteful and unnecessary. I hope the Senate and the House strike out that provision before passing the budget.

Osi Umenyiora Engaged to Leila Lopes - February Man Candy #16

Nigerian U.S football star Osi Umenyiora is today's February man candy. Ositadimma “Osi” Umenyiora (31) plays the defensive end for the New York Giants and is involved in philanthropic efforts in Nigeria and AIDS awareness education in Angola and U.K. But don't get your hopes up, Osi is engaged to former Miss Universe, Angolan Leila Lopes.

Osi and Leila announced their engagement via Twitter after spending a week in Europe with friends and family visiting such sights as Rome, Paris, Monte Carlo and posting photos from Twitter and instagram. The couple had to keep their relationship under wraps till now because of Leila's job. They were first reported to be dating back in November 2012 at her handover, but still kept it low-key till this engagement. I like their style. Enjoy pics below;

Goldie was Married - Husband Andrew Harvey's Interview and Facebook Album

Goldie's husband, Andrew Harvey, had preferred to be private and stay out of his wife's professional and public life as an artiste and musician. Now he has spoken out to try to quench the gossip trailing Goldie's death by sharing a Facebook album of their time together..

Looking at their pictures made it as real as it could get. From the date marks on the photos, they've been together for up to ten years, and in the pics, as I saw the woman, Susan Harvey, so real, so happy, my heart was broken all over again. She was truly beautiful.

Re: Valentine - You asked, I answered

Please forgive my bad hair day, I'd just come out from getting a massage. The picture was taken on Valentine's Day. So I asked in this post for you guys to ask me any thing, and few questions came in which I've answered below;

Did you love Atala instantly or did you grow to love him? and if you did, whats that process like?

Thanks, Prov. I didn't love him instantly but I did admire him [or his mind and personality I should say]. You see, we 'met' online at a message-board. I was a lonely student in a new country looking for a place that felt like home. I found this website of Nigerians and the community welcomed me. He was among those that first interacted with me, and with time as I saw his intelligence, kindness, and level-headedness, I started to crush on him. I knew there was an attraction between our online personas, but he was aloof for a long time and so I just had fun.

Goldie's Tribute Video and Official Statement on her Death

I went offline yesterday still somehow hoping this was a hoax. I woke up to Atala telling me it was on BBC News, and the day got duller than just from the weather outside my window. The Vanguard reports that Goldie died of pulmonary embolism, but the speculations are unconfirmed. This is the statement from the CEO of Kennis Music, Kenny Ogungbe;

“With a deep sense of loss, we announce the shocking death of our darling music star, Goldie Harvey. Goldie, 31, died on Thursday after she complained of a severe headache shortly after her arrival from the United States where she went to witness the Grammy Award. She was rushed from her Park View, Ikoyi, Lagos residence to her official hospital, Reddington, Victoria Island, Lagos, where doctors pronounced her dead on arrival at exactly 7:30pm in the evening.

“We consider this period a gloomy moment for us and the entire Nigerian music industry in view of the circumstance in which she passed away; the abundance of talent she exhibited in her short but eventful music career and the various opportunities her trip to the United States of America would have availed her. She is survived by her father, step- mother, brothers and sisters. We deeply sympathise with her family and fans all over the world and very grateful to all and sundry, especially, the vibrant Nigerian media for their concern and prompt reportage. We shall keep everybody informed as events unfold as we are devastated by the sudden loss.”

The Subtle Dating Signs that Men Might Miss

She just might be more into you than you think - Part 2 by Tobi Atte

There ARE some good men out there. Unfortunately many of them are not very good at telling when a woman is even somewhat interested in sparking a conversation or in actually starting the “dance” that may lead to a relationship.

You need not suffer not only because of the information I’m about to give you but also because worrying if a woman is interested in you and showing that “worry” is not a good look. Worrying about what she thinks may be the very reason why she may not be attracted to you. It portrays you as weak and insecure, and that’s the vibe she will pick up from you.

Women are often attracted to the man who is perceived as totally comfortable in his own skin…who is not worried about what women in the room think.

So focus on BEING interesting and appealing in the moment…enjoying yourself… rather than TRYING to be interesting or appealing. Don’t focus on what she thinks…focus on simply BEING….(More on that another day). If you missed the first three, take a make a quick U-TURN and read them HERE. Here are the other 3.

For Better, For Worse, Dies...

Walking on my toes, silently, from the bedroom into the kitchen; I cut into the big loaf of bread with the sharpest knife on the cabinet long before you wake. I want no sounds heard; this silence is my power and warm bed. Your food is served- ready to be dipped into when you awake. My mind doesn’t want the bother of words that hold no water, have bad taste and stink like a soiled bed wetter’s mattress. No words, just like it was yesterday.

I walk on my toes to the room, lie down beside you and pretend to sleep when I feel your weight move off the bed. You glance at me- idiot, I curse inside. What is left of me but the poundings of anger, neglect and disgrace? Two deaths and promises that fell into the thin air of nothingness. I stood by you when you had nothing, now too much money has stuffed your stomach with pride. Your lies, cheating and insults have shaved all hopes of new beginnings like the drums of bleakness beating in an average Nigerians heart.

I have resigned to fate, I will be the maid you never let me have, the whore that opens her legs as easily as you roll your roll-on under your arms, and a fashionista that smiles as we take the perfect picture. I am the first lady that feels like the last. My death acceptance is my Nigerian norm.

Tell me, where does a Governor’s wife run when her husband is the law of the land? She dies to the travails of living without rules and laws, yet baptised in political lies and unrestrained power.