By Nkem Akinsoto
One of the advice given to new couples is to do things together, and even where they have busy schedules, they are encouraged to make time to spend together. When Atala and I got married, he was living in the United States and as we agreed, I had rounded off my stay of three years in the UK in plans to move continents. Luckily, I was able to get my US visa and join him about a month later.
When I arrived, it was March, and if you've heard of Seattle, you've probably heard wet, cloudy, or evergreen in the same sentence. Spring in Seattle is the poster child for dull and depressing weather and that was when I arrived. Add to that fact, I had no job at first and also did not have an American driving license. You can measure my desire to get time outside of the house as well as spend time with my brand new husband.
I think Atala understood and he was also keen to show off his city to me, and that he did. In fact, he did such a wonderful job that even though he had been thinking of moving to somewhere warmer, by the time we were both done discovering the area, we were both in love, bad weather and all. LOL..
With no planning, one of the activities that became a favorite of ours was movies at the cinema. As much as we loved the outdoors and discovering the city around us, sometimes, the weather was just so terrible that you couldn't go out into it. During those times, the cinema was a refuge and if we were lucky to select a good movie, then there would be warm conversation for some hours, days or even years afterwards. Indeed we still refer to some of the good or very bad movies we saw three years ago.
So what do you think about spending regular "we" time with your partner, and what is your favorite date activity?
These are lovely pics Myne. I love it when we spend time playing indoor umm... board games.
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ReplyDeleteI agree with you Myne. Spending quality time together helps couples grow their love for each other. It helps to do better planning with less stress. Your city is sure beautiful.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Afoke. Lovely pictures you've got with hubby. Best wishes!
Deletewatching movies together, praying together, gyming together, visiting friends together, evrything together :D
ReplyDeleteyep...... that comment is right up my street... but with a bit of space from time to time.. we need our me times...
DeleteChei Myne! I see hot legs oooooo!
ReplyDeleteWhat do I think? Very important. It aids in enriching the friendship between the both of you.
ReplyDeleteWe love out-doorsy affairs, especially just driving to the beach, meeting up with friends for a game of fotball,go-cart racing,window-shopping (especially him, for gadgets)..anything outdoorsy really, or, we hook up granny with grandkid and stay indoors for the day or weekend (depending).
Myne Myne!! you like 'love' eh!!!! looool! well hubby and I spend a lot of time watching movies at home or playing games...I dare say couples who spend time together, pray together are way happier! You and Atala look lovely! Hail him for us o! we see his works..*wink*
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You are a beautiful couple Myne. Friendship before love, makes everything more enjoyable.
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I love this post.. As I'm in same situation at the moment... Nice one..
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You are so right. Doing things together aids bonding and breeds love "wantintin".
ReplyDeleteYour pictures are very lovely.
Love all the advice you proffer so generously. May God bless you Myne, God bless Atala, and God bless your marriage :)
ReplyDeleteU know Oga moved here in July too and so I was excited to show him around NY, and we did a few things museum, walks, drinks by the pier, etc but our staple go to was taking out time on Sunday evenings to take a walk and just be together even if we arent saying anything. Now that winter is here, no more walks but movie nights/ and happy hour drinks together serve as couple time for us. :)
ReplyDeleteI agree Myne. It is tres important. Doing things together is like the "fertilizer/manure" that enables the plant grow well.
ReplyDeleteDuring weddings in my church, my pastor is fond of saying: "From today both of you must do things together, go to occassions together, sit together in church, and if possible, always coordinate your outfits"
I always laugh, but such things help.
in short regular 'we' time is all we have. Just yesterday we were discussing how we never get bored of each other even though after such a long time we get to have a we time everyday and i mean it, every breathing day there's a we time. it is a blessing to be married to someone who loves you for just being you.
ReplyDeleteFirst, you have nice legs and those pictures are lovely.
ReplyDeleteNow silently taking notes for the future. Lol.
You are right, spending time together is very important...even if its in the mechanic shop like me and my boo would do tomorrow repairing my car. Lol
ReplyDeleteLovely pics
aw....really nice write up..
ReplyDeleteand nicer pictures
We have monthly date nights, the saturday after salary...we go see a movie or bowling or go karting...something sha...but dinner at the end of whatever we do is constant, much fun and my fav thing to do, because we always try out a new restaurant. the back and forth trying to settle on whic to go to, the ambience, trying to review the food and tasting each other's food....worth looking forward to every month.
Beautiful pics.
ReplyDeleteLooking forward to visit seattle someday.
It is fun to do things together as couples.
True and even to unmarried couples it helps to see how your partnership is and how each other act in public:)
ReplyDeleteI concur..
DeleteUnveilinggold,yea this is where I belong ooo
DeleteTime together on a regular basis is important because a lot of couples tend to retire into a routine because of the 'sabi me finish' syndrome, or because, they have kids, and those kids become their focus at the expense of their personal relationship. You are on point about this Myne. Hubby and I do not have a predictable routine, but as many times as we can during the month, we plan dates/outings or even travel together when it's possible, because he travels a lot and I do not allow the fact that we have 4 kids under 10 deter us-we simply look for reliable people to 'childrenseat' them, lol, and it helps that my younger sister is with us for now. Fun activities include, visits to the cinema, trying out new restaurants, just driving around, or visiting friends. Asides that, we work together in our own company, and once in a while, we attend official meetings together. It has helped keep our bond/friendship going strong for 10 years now.
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ReplyDeleteFirst, lol @ comments about your nice legs! Atala's head must be swollen with possessive pride by now! :D
Two, if you're unmarried, stay away from anything related to "indoors" or "movies-in-the-house." Find things you both love and enjoy doing outside the house. We both know where horror movies and protective snuggles lead to. And if this is your thing, well...Hmm hmm.
Three, if you're married anytime you guys can be alone is "we" time. Honestly. I look at my parents sometimes and wished I had voluntarily gone to my neighbors' houses to play when I was younger, just to give them that personal space to reconnect.
Aww :')
ReplyDeleteYou make love look so beautiful...
Spending time together is something we have to work extra hard at, with our kids being so little. We try to improvise and thanks to you, I'm getting more ideas :)
you both are so adorable and it is always a fun thing to spend time with your significant other. My favorite outing is taking a trip out of our small city, so much fun to visit other cities and eat new foodie. Nice post :=)
ReplyDeleteI forgot to add, I like the first pic... so cute.. I went awwwwww.... u two are matching... lol..
ReplyDeleteUncle Atala looks good ehn in the 2nd pic.. as in dapper has nothing on him oo..
overall, lovely couple with positive outlook on life... very nice..
I pray your dreams come true..xxx
I'm not married yet but as everyone has said it is very important to have 'we' time or like someone else said make whatever time you do spend together 'we' time. Even if its folding freshly laundered clothes together or cleaning on a saturday morning. It's the memories that are created that matter.
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I believe in we time, and in our case the more simple the better, as we don't have much to spend.
ReplyDeleteYou guyz make a supa cute couple. i loveeeeeee the pixs. sigh, to be in love & be loved in return :-)
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