Being Thankful While Waiting to be Parents

Seeing the picture above recently reminded me of the fact that we have been waiting to be parents for a couple of years now, and while currently working actively towards getting a child into our life, we have been taking it step by step, not stressing over it, and thankful for what we do have and share.

Some months ago we determined to start the process of foster care and adoption and attended the relevant training we needed to put us in a frame of mind to have a child or children in our home.

Some say it is easier to do things when you're younger, like getting married or having children. I'm not talking about being physically able to do either, but about the mental state required to do these things. Now, it's not that doing those things are easier at that stage, just that when you're younger, you don't overthink these things. This could be a bad thing, as some people make mistakes, but it could also be good if you're wise and luck is on your side, or you keep educating yourself and growing together, with your husband and with your children.

When you're older, you're definitely wiser, and you may have learned from other people's experiences all that could go wrong. You analyse and weight each decision minutely before you go ahead. The training we had were packed with resources to educate and inform aspiring foster and adoptive parents, and develop our parenting skills.


The topics were dominated by children from the American foster care system, but a lot also cut across what parenting entails in general, including scheduling child care, etc.

At the end of the training, we were filled with loads of information, most which we'll never had gotten if we'd conceived. The information is very educative, but it was also scary in a way. Children change their parent's lives, whether they come as babies, toddlers or older children, and whether they are biological or adopted.

As one who is older is set in his or her ways and finds that they prefer to take time to decide on who to trust with the rest of their lives, so also we have gotten used to this free and enjoyable period with just the two of us. We can sleep in bed till noon, go riding, plan and take off for vacation at any time, and generally

However, we have decided that Atala and I very much love children, and will continue on the process of getting children into our lives in which ever way God blesses us with them. We are pursuing adoption, and will definitely go ahead and complete our qualification to become foster and adoptive parents, and possibly become parents through that path.

In the mean time, we will continue to spend time with children in our respective families, and people in our social circles, as well as thanking God everyday for life, for family, for each other, for good health, and for love.