The debate about women having it all seems to always crop up at least once a year, or each time a working women has a child and then returns to work. When the working woman is a media personality like actress, Drew Barrymore, it makes news headlines which it is currently doing. But we discussed this topic over on Bukky Apampa's site last year, and these were my comments.
ALL is relative, don’t compare, be content, and relearn your attitude so you can be happy with what and where you find yourself. Michelle Obama had a top paying job before, now she is a SAHM as the FLOTUS for about 8 years. Same with Hilary Clinton who took time off when she was first lady and later ran for president, now a SOS.
It is different for everybody, some women have it all (happy and content) as SAHM, no career and they don’t want one. Some make partner at a big time lawfirm or CEO at a fortune500 either at 35 or at 65, it is all for them at different times. I could go on, but you get the idea. We are all different, and so are our decisions and options in life.
So I think All is possible, if only we can define that all realistically in a way that makes sense for us as individuals or as a couple with your husband or partner. It does require sacrifices, like almost everything in life, and it requires making difficult decisions, and being content with your outcomes.
What are your thoughts? Leave comments below, and do vote on the poll. It is below, and also on the right sidebar. Thanks!
So can women have it all?
PS - Check out Aloted's tips on how to add balance to your life as a working mother, here.
I think 'all' is different to everyone. It depends on various situations, some women are satisfied with being SAHM & their husband are happy with it & in some cases, the woman & even her husband may not be happy with it. It depend on your own particular situation. Voice of Sagacity
ReplyDeleteI agree, let each person decided their own IT or ALL...
DeleteThis is relative. It depends on the individual and the type of job. I will go read what Alot and Bukky wrote.
ReplyDeleteUhm.... 'define all'
ReplyDelete@Eya and Nolly, you both hit where I find the crux of the matter is :)
DeleteYou can have it all - just not at the same time. If you do it all at the same time, something is going to give. For instance, in your child-bearing/rearing years there's no way that you can keep the pace of a high impact job that takes you away from home and still be an all encompassing super mom/wife. Either your family life will suffer (in which case you better have a supportive spouse to pick up the pieces) or your work life will suffer.
ReplyDeleteA great way to put it.
DeleteHere is a great article on this debate from last summer.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2012/07/why-women-still-cant-have-it-all/309020/
Yes, I read that last year, pretty powerful, but I felt not expansive enough.
DeleteWomen have never had it all. It's my opinion, but i believe that if you look inwards, you just may see it as I do.
ReplyDeletePlease explain more.
DeleteDepends on individual definition of ALL.
ReplyDeleteI'm a wife, a mother, a writer and also have the good fortune of running a business with my husband. That enables me schedule my time round my son. Some days i choose to work from home, other days i go to the office with him. Our clients are used to seeing either or both of us with our baby. We actually get more business contracts with him around. Many meetings end up with baby talk, advice, sharing experiences etc. Just yesterday, at a meeting the client carried him all through, pacing and holding my baby's teether for him while we talked business. We wound up discussing what can help relieve teething aches, and yes we got the job.
As far as i'm concerned i have it all. Well, apart from the beach house in Malibu, condo in NY, private jet etc, lol.
LOL....very true. And I hope you get the beach house and condo too :)
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