Last week I set up the poll asking what people's love language was, and it turns out physical touch was one of the bottom two, and very far from the top, 12 votes to quality time, which had 42 votes. I can say I am a bit surprised. Atala thinks maybe it's because majority of my readers and the poll respondents are women, and probably physical touch is not so important to women.
I'm not so sure about that. Personally, physical touch ranks third for what I want to receive, and second to what I want to give. I was quite surprised at how poorly it did in this poll, at a point, it was at the bottom of the poll with just two votes.
My dear readers, both men and women, do you think women discount physical touch so much? I am comparing this to the knowledge that for a lot of men, physical touch is either number one or two on their priority. Could this be a problem between couples? Or was there a problem with my poll?
I am female&quite frankly,I wonder how it came 2nd to d last.it should be LAST!!!:-)
ReplyDeleteSeriously,it's not as important as all the others listed above.
Acts of service may not be so important to a man cos all the things meant to be done are stereotypically d woman's job anyway so d woman will appreciate it more
Lol at anonymous above..
ReplyDeleteMyne, I think Atala is right in that most of your respondents must have been women cause the ranking reflected exactly what I would choose ie 1.Quality time (we don't joke with that lol) 2. Words of affirmation 3. Acts of service 4. Physical touch 5. Gifts.
When my boyfriend asked me to guess his love language, I said everything BUT physical touch lol and it happened that that was indeed his love language (I almost argued with him that it was a lie.. as in like,"just THAT?!" lol).. It made me realise that in a very interesting way, he loved to be touched, not only when it's sexual but just to be held, be close to you.. Makes it kinda ring true that a man is a baby inside lol.
So, I learnt a lesson that day..
Physical touch is number 1 but not for my husband. This is the biggest thing i would like to change in my 6yrs marriage. I can't exist without the physical touch, sexual or not sexual. I am very sensual and sex is also key for me. We only have aex once a week and it kills me. I am female.
ReplyDeleteI think physical touch is extremely important to most women. The 'problem' with physical touch, though, is that it has to be built up towards (at least in the minds of many women). I think the message from the poll participants (if they were primarily women) is that physical touch for the sake of physical touch doesn't cut it. Few women are eager to be touched without having been 'warmed up' by at least one of the others first: words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service, gifts. Maybe the poll results are just a reflection of this reality?
ReplyDeleteI'm a woman and i voted physical touch. It is very important to me, and fortunately for my husband too. We are very touchy touchy to each other and i love it
ReplyDeleteI love to held (I'm a woman) when I date guys I tell them there and then that I am a touchy feely person. From holding hands to putting my hand through his hair. It makes him feel that bit special. I always say a real woman knows the art of balancing.
ReplyDeleteI'm the second Physical Touch vote (with Rayo Abe). I think Physical Touch gets a bad rap or negative connotation because it's associated mostly with sex. But touching is beyond sex. I want to hold hands a lot, I love hugs, being held, give high fives, etc.
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I'm not surprised at the results if it is truly mostly women. We prefer mostly other things, and it causes problems in marriage for sure when the man had a higher sex drive.
ReplyDeleteI love physical touch, but not as much as i love quality time, or receiving gifts. And like someone wrote above, the woman has to be "warmed up" with the other types of love languages. Most of the time, i prefer to touch, than be touched, because i have this mindset that receiving touch is associated with sex. Men tend to love it more than women.
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