Why Funke Should Not Reveal Her Marriage Problems At This Time

Funke Akindele has been speaking out about her one year marriage to estranged husband, Kehinde Oloyede, and not in a very flattering way. She describes what led to their current split as verbal and emotional abuse, which I think are good grounds on which to question the foundation of a relationship. However, because there is no divorce yet, and the husband seems to be seeking a reconciliation, I think it's a bit premature for Funke's revelations.

The road to the couple's separation became public when Kehinde Oloyede shared a facebook post about it, saying the couple had “agreed to go their separate ways due to irreconcilable differences.”

Though both parties tried to deny the separation, leading to further online controversy, they finally acknowledged the reports with a public statement from Funke's PR, and a chat with another blogger where she said she would prefer not to talk anymore about the matter.

However, barely 2 weeks after the whole incident, Funke Akindele has granted an interview to E24-7 Magazine. The reports goes on to quote Funke as saying;

“I was abused emotionally and verbally. Really, I felt we could work things out when the trouble started two months after the marriage, but I made up my mind and shut the door of the marriage at him when the trouble was coming to me too much.  I stooped to conquer him; buried my fame and name to make him my husband, but it did not work. At a point in time, I asked if it's not the same man that was all over me before we married. He nearly got me off my career.  He called me severally; I did not pick his calls but when he realized my silence was tormenting him, he took to Facebook. It's alright. Ask him when did he come to my house last? He left me here in my rented apartment with nothing and he will just dash in and dash out. He gets abusive, caustic anytime we have a misunderstanding and often told me to my face, he's going to his wife in Oshodi.”

“He sent me sms that he has seen a buyer for his house at Adeniyi Jones for N40million. He asked me if he should sell it and that if he does, he will buy me a new car and a rent me a new apartment. Why now? I don't need all that, I want my sanity.” After she ignored him, he sent her another text abusing her and calling her names. “So you can see that he does not mean well for me,” she re-iterated.

 “I respect him to the end but he chose to treat me that way. He said he wanted to clip my wings.”

Now I believe that separation does not have to end in divorce. Couples who are separated need to show themselves the same courtesy and respect as if they're still married, because they are. If there are things you need to keep private, then being separated is no excuse to spread your stories to the press. In as much as Funke is a public figure, she needs to stop speaking to the press for now. That is, if she hopes to mend her marriage to Mr. Oloyede.

If however, she has already determined to go ahead with a divorce, then...