By Varian Xavier on Facebook
This is one of my fbook friends who is in a lovely/beautiful polygynous relationship. Polygyny is growing and more black couples are considering it and engaging in it.
Polygyny is for the benefit of women and children and with the women out numbering men it can be a solution to family unity. In polygyny every woman can have a man and every child can have a father.
Polygyny is a big help financially when grown folk get together and combine their resources. It is not for everybody but for those engaged in it seem to be very happy and the children are cared for by a loving family. All parties involved have to be mature and understanding.
The women have to be totally comfortable with self and love their sister-wife like a real sister. Sister wives at times become best friends and do everything together and have the same goals and purpose. They all take care of home and share duties around the house.
Most polygynous relationships have very intelligent and responsible kids and the children have the attention of 3 to 4 adults. Polygyny has always thru history been a part of the African culture and the family unit progresses.
There are many benefits of a polygynous relationship and it should be put on the table and talked about in the black community. Polygyny is going on under the table in some form anyway so why not put it on the table and organize it for the benefit of all involved and the children.
I personally think its a beautiful thing and i personally would limit it to only 2 wives. More than 2 can get complicated and may ruin the family unit if one wife is not mentally stable or matured to a certain point.
I have several friends in a polygynous relationship and it is more love and care floating around than the usual as far as i can see.
3 incomes is always better than 1 or 2 and 3 people working one business is always fruitful.
I personally dont have to be in a polygynous relationship and i would be fine 1 on 1 but i would go there if the right situation presented itself.
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What do you think of his points?
wow...never heard about this!!! i thought people frowned upon polygamy in Africa and now this? how is it any different from polygamy? maybe ist just me but your post didnt fully explain how polygyny works or what it means.... the way i understand it, it is illegal in the US and Canada. yup i just checked Google half way thru writing my comment: it is a form of plural marriage in which a man is allowed more than one wife (i.e. it is a narrow form of polygamy, and distinguished from other forms of polygamy such as polyandry)... so my initial question is apt...how is it any different from polygamy?
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