Waconzy Says Girlfriend Is a Virgin, Encourages Fans To Go For HIV Test

Nigerian rapper Waconzy posted the photo above on his Instagram to show that he has recently taken a HIV test which certified him virus free. He also insinuates that he is celibate for now as his girlfriend is a virgin and encourages his fans to abstain or use condoms, and also have regular HIV tests. Read his post below..

Virgin Till She Married At 36, Lakita Garth Shares The Secrets Of Abstinence

Now 45 years old, Lakita Garth was a 36-year-old virgin in 2005 when she kissed her boyfriend-turned-husband for the first time. Garth has since gone public about her 36 years of virginity and is now helping other women around the world learn how to refrain from sex prior to marriage.

Lakita Garth Wright is a graduate of the University of Southern California and a former Miss Black California. She has been a model for Nike and Reebok, so you can guess she was never lacking for suitors. Check out her thoughts on abstinence below:

I'm Born Again But Can't Stay Away From Sex - What To Do?

Many young unmarried people find that abstinence can be very difficult, especially if they are dating while looking actively for ThE ONE. Former BBA winner, Uti Nwachukwu decided to be honest while being interviewed for Vanguard. He insists he is a born again christian but admits to be still imperfect, his besetting sin? Not being able to abstain from sex.

Jill Duggar and New Husband Derick Dillard Kiss For the First Time at Their Wedding

Jill Duggar and Derick Dillard's wedding was the start of the couple's life as husband and wife, and also the first time they ever shared a kiss. The 23 year old daughter of the "19 Kids and Counting" TV family decided to wait for marriage before ever kissing her sweetheart in keeping with her family's courtship rules.

While they were courting, the couple had never done more than hold hands, which they did only after they got engaged back in April. Jill explained to ABC earlier this year;

"We're just really trying to keep our relationship focused not on the physical but really just more on communication and continuing to learn more about each other. We're saving our first kiss and things beyond that for our wedding." 

Sex, Love and Abstinence - Episode 8 and 9 An African City

In 'An Ode to Saturdays,' the five women live out their weekly Saturday routines on screen, with Makena in an interracial relationship with Matthew. Of course, nothing is ever as simple as it seems.

Dear Myne - My Fiance Won't Abstain With Me For Lent

Please, I need you to help me ask your readers a question. I'm faced with a dilemma right now. As you know we are in the season of lent which is basically for fasting and praying and seeking the face of God. I have decided to be dedicated to my fasting this period and commit certain issues I am facing into Gods hands.

I discussed this issue with my husband-to-be and we decided that we should not have sex for the period of lent. Even though his church does not recognise lent, he recognises that it is a good exercise and has encouraged me thus far. Issue is, he seems to be getting weak. He is asking for it and I have somehow managed to prevent it till now.

Pressure is mounting from him and he is saying I am depriving him.

Love is Way More Than Sex - Two Men Speak

I have said it before that I'm tiring of the relationship between Olivia and the President in Scandal, an American TV show. At first, Atala wondered if it was my conservative side kicking in because they were basically committing adultery, but it wasn't it. I explained that since the first few episodes where they were portrayed as star crossed lovers living separate lives with broken hearts, these days their relationship was all about the sex. For a romantic like me, love is more than sex. If I cannot connect with you emotionally, then the sex is just a physical urge any other man, or even a sex toy, can satisfy.

In his review of the episode of Scandal that put a stop to my Ollie/Fitz fanclub membership, Harry wrote about the dangers of tying love too close to sex,

...I think the Writers should explore other angles to their love. 80% of the time we see Fitz and Olivia expressing their love to each other is when they are having sex. To me, it just means that Mellie is bad in bed and Olivia is compensating. The writers should explore dialogues and use events to show that the love they have for each other is way more than the sex... because to me I feel once the sex starts to suck, the love won’t prevail.

Abstinence and Love - From a Man's Point of View

Yesterday, the dear myne post went up and brought in some really illuminating comments from Chukky Eboka, who went into a lot of detail to explain his stand. While I do not completely agree with him, I do see many valid points he makes, some of which I've blogged about before. I have shared some excerpts from his view point below;

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus. I'm offering up opinion from a male perspective- but here we have all these women telling us how we should feel. I'm quite sure the guy in question will be in the same age range as me, and he is in the UK just as I am. I can share a lot of how he feels- and i am explaining it to her. but the problem with relationships is that we never listen to the opposite side.

Pray tell me of some other way an upwardly mobile, intelligent, fast paced lifestyle young heterosexual male has to establish his territory around a particular female he fancies. any way you come up with will no doubt be some vanilla experience that only a woman can devise and which a man can replicate with his multitude of friends male or female.

Dear Myne - He said I Used him and now Treats me Badly

I have been following your blog for a while and I am a fan especially on the Dear Myne segment. Please I need different opinions on what is currently going on in my life so I could make a decision especially from your people who follow you as I find them quite mature. Ok here goes my story, quite long but please indulge me.

While I was in the university, I dated this guy, I am a born again christian but he isn't but I loved him. He is actually a good guy. We broke up after service due to mainly distance and slight misunderstandings.

When he came back to Lagos after service, he tried to reconnect but I was already dating someone else but he kept on. He persisted until he traveled to the UK for his Masters on scholarship. Before he traveled, he told me to wait for him that he was going to come back because I was single as at the time he was living. He even introduced me to his folks but I wasn't comfortable with the distance thing. Long distance has never been my thing.

Are Men Willing to Wait till Marriage?

A lot of the posts I have shared on this blog on celibacy and abstinence, both for personal or religious reasons, have been mostly focused on women. Someone sent me a Dear Myne post, asking how to find true love as she is celibate. Another sent in a comment that some men who will accept to abstain from sex with their women are often not interesting.

The articles I have written on this issue are more middle of the road, taking both genders into account, either as singles, or as people in a relationship.

One question that hasn't been really tackled here, and which I found while looking through the search phrases for my blog is the title of this post. Are men willing to wait till marriage? I know for certain that some men are, the question for the ladies may be, where are they and are they enough?

Remaining Celibate - For Young Singles and Couples

This is one of the hot button topics for young people who either want to reach full potential in their study or career without sexual distraction, or who want to stick to their moral or religious ethics on the issue of pre-marital sex. In cases like in this post, when the reasons for celibacy are personal and well understood by the individual to benefit them, I am all for supporting and assisting to maintain that decision.

Dear Myne - I am Celibate, How do I find True Love?

Hi Myne, I am one of your readers. I am in my early 30s and still a virgin yes, you read me right and i live and work in 9ja. I am pretty and blessed with youthful looks and most people never believe i am older than 26. Now the issue is, it has been a bit challenging for me to have a proper relationship cos most of the guys i meet want sex.

Waiting Till You Get Married for Sex

I love me some Megan good, I think she's a sweet actress and she's really beautiful. Recently, she and her fiance, now husband, DeVon Martin, got married after some weeks of publicity where she stated that they were waiting till they were married to, you know, get it on, have carnal knowledge of each other, have sex, make love, or whatever name or term floats anybody's boat. Even Franklin appeared on Oprah's show and talked about their mutual decision to stay celibate until they were wed.