Dear Myne - Should I Ask Him For A Date?

I met this guy recently and we exchanged business cards. That same evening he asked for a date for the following day. Though I would have obliged, he said he would close late, which meant i will be waiting for him at my office, so I didn't. He asked for another date but it was always late and am wondering if there is no weekends. Am just thinking if i should suggest weekend to him or ask him for a date one of these days as he has not called me since i declined his last offer.

This came in on the Setting P 101 and this was my response. "I think you should call and ask, maybe he assumed you always rejected him cos you weren't interested. However, try to do some background check, for instance, is he married, or have a girlfriend who he reserves his weekend for?"

What do you guys suggest?

Should Single Ladies Date Married Men?

A Nollywood actress made the news recently when in a recent interview, she advised single ladies this;

Let me explain something to you; where are the single guys? They are there and not ready to marry. If the single guys are not ready then the next available option should be taken. I believe one should go for whatever makes one happy. If a married man is the one that will make you happy, please go for it. I know married women would be angry with me but it is the truth of the matter".

I am not going to say much because one could misconstrue my comments as being influenced by my marital status. My question is, does she have a point? Knowing that a number of men spend more quality time with their mistresses than they do with their wives [Married Men Spend Valentine with Girlfriends], maybe the better question is, should married men ask single ladies out?

Gbenro Ajibade - February Man Candy #23

Gbenro Ajibade is an actor most noted for his role in Tinsel.

Oluchi Onweagba for Nature's Gentle Touch

Lovely Pictures, for the Nature's Gentle Touch brand of hair care products. Enjoy, and have a great weekend.

Past African American Winners Of The Oscars

The #1 Hollywood entertainment event is this Sunday and already, bets are being made, in this household anyway, about who will win and who won't. Denzel Washington is up for his role in Flight, and may yet win a third Oscar. Both he and Halle Berry are among 13 African Americans who have previously won best actor or best supporting oscars in the past years beginning with Hattie McDaniel in 1939.

Dear Myne - My Husband's Ancestry is a Family Secret

Hi Myne, I've been all over your website looking for a place to drop a personal relationship question begging for an answer. But maybe I can leave it here? [This came in from my FB page. My email address is on the About page and you can also leave a comment on any post]

It's like this, I have been married to my husband for like 10 years now. When we were courting, he'd introduced his older sisters to me and the rest of his family, but unknown to me the one I came to know as his eldest sister was really his mother! He knew it then but didn't tell me.

Now, the truth came out late last year. Stuff happens everywhere, I know, and it could be one of those 'she got pregnant with him when she was was very young, maybe even didn't know who the father was' and it wouldn't be far from the truth or all that unusual a thing. What I mean is that it's not like it's some kind of never before heard of situation.

Volunteering in Ways that benefit Young Women.

I grew up in London and have always done my own hair (well in primary school my Mum used to do it for me) , but throughout uni I did hair for people in my Church and at university, as I attended a university outside of London with very few black people. Whilst working a 9-5 at the MOD , I did bridal hair on the weekends, then got the opportunity to work in the hair industry in Nigeria.

I kept postponing it as I was apprehensive, I'd never lived in Nigeria even though Mum dragged me there on holiday at any given opportunity. I'm sure I have been to my home town more times than my family that live in Lagos or Abuja.

About 2 years ago a friend of the family committed suicide, he was a budding actor, but his career was in peaks and troughs. Cut the long story short, my brother booked my ticket and I had one week to pack my life and go to Lagos "Just go, you don't have anything tying you down, you will regret it if you don't go".

Why I'm Afraid of Celebrating Nigerian Public Officials

Richard Mofe Damijo - RMD

A few weeks ago, I featured RMD as a February Man Candy. The list was to showcase Nigerian men who looked good doing what they did, but I also wanted to use the opportunity to celebrate them for their hard work. RMD is a veteran Nollywood actor, but some years ago, he accepted an appointment to work with the Delta State government as an Special Adviser, later a commissioner for Tourism.

Now, RMD is alleged to have misappropriated N50Million meant for a Cultural Expo to attract tourists to Delta State, my home state. I've waited a couple of days for a rebuttal from RMD and his camp, but none has surfaced at this time. Until he has answered the allegations publicly, I've decided to remove RMD from my Man Candy list. He may be eye candy, but if he's guilty, he's not a man I can look up to or ask others to aspire to be like.

...Mr. Mofe Damijo issued a check to the tourism board in the name of its acting GM, Ms. Ajufo. She in turn reportedly deposited the sum into her First Bank private account with account number (3006131619) operated under her name, Nkem Philo Ajufo. Our sources said she and Mr. Mofe Damijo subsequently shared the money.

Being Open to Meet Potential Dates Online and Offline

After I published my Re: Valentine post, I got a couple of emails from people who wanted to know more about how Atala and I met online, where, and what I had to say about online dating, or simply meeting potential dates online, and then taking it offline.

One was looking for websites/message boards where he could meet people, and asked for specific websites to meet new ladies. He said reading mine and Atala's meeting again made him want to give online dating a shot.

The other, a lady, said she had kinda been accused of not being open to meeting people online and taking a step outside of her comfort zone. She also wanted to know more about online dating. Though she had dabbled on a dating site before, she never got past the profile filling, and wanted more targeted directions.

Mercy Johnson Shares First Baby Photoshoot

Mercy Johnson has been telling her motherhood story through pictures on Twitter. Over the past two months, the Nollywood actress has transitioned from wife to a mother and she is enjoying it. After her daughter's birth on the 30th of December 2012, she recently changed her social media name to Mercy Johnson Okojie and the bio to Wife, Mother and Nollywood Actress.

Yesterday, Mercy Johnson had her daughter's, Purity Osebhajimente Okojie, first photo shoot and the baby looks so adorable.