From Friends to Lovers, What's your Take?

I've always thought this was an interesting angle to relationships, right from when I first read about them in romance novels. You see these two people who have been friends since high school, and who have been leading separate romantic lives for years suddenly or gradually develop feelings for each other. If they're lucky as is usually the case in these books, the feelings are mutual.

One thing I like about the idea of being friends before lovers is that it gives the two people involved the opportunity to get to know each other with less of the pretense people put forward due to instant romantic attraction that leads quickly to a relationship. Also, the best long-term relationships are those where the couple are friends in addition to lovers, where the couple will be able to spend long periods together without getting on each other's nerves.

He is Risen! Happy Easter to Everyone

I want to wish all of you my wonderful friends and blog readers a Happy Easter! I wish everyone a day filled with enjoyment, friends and family. For me, it is more than the bunnies, eggs or chocolate, but the resurrection of our Lord Jesus Christ which has ushered in a hope for life eternal.

 In the midst of all the celebrations and happiness this Easter Sunday and Monday, I want us to remember the true meaning of Easter. I wish you all a blessed and purposeful new month of April. I know that great things will surely happen and keep happening to all of us.

Banky W Strong Ting - Romance Meets Music

This remains one of my best songs by a Nigerian musician. I was not disappointed too when the video came out. The song gives me goosebumps, gets me in the mood, in short, e dey do me Strong Ting!

Force Vs Persuasion, What Motivates Us? Atala Writes

In understanding how human beings work, one of the things I have pondered is what motivates people. I'm sure there are all sorts of factors involved, but it seems most of the motivators fall into two categories - those which hold out the promise of something good happening as a result, and those which hold out the threat of something bad happening. I'm talking here about force and persuasion.

For a lot of people, force is the more appealing of the two. It's certainly a lot easier and quicker to use than persuasion - when persuading someone, not only do you have to rack your brains to figure out what he might like and ensure that you are able to offer it to him, you also have to figure out how to present your proposal in such a way that he will accept it. Of course, there's no guarantee that he will accept it on its first presentation - he might need some time to first become comfortable with the idea.

Affairs of the Heart 2 - With This Ring I thee Wed

Two young women in their early twenties walked past his table. They had somehow managed to squeeze themselves into two of the tightest dresses he had ever seen. They both had manes of Brazilian hair almost all the way down to their waists, and were both clutching the latest Blackberry phones in their perfectly manicured hands. He was not a fan of this look, even though it seemed to be the ‘in’ look at the moment. He did, however, appreciate how nicely the two of them were built; from the curve of their backs to the tightness of their stomachs and the African fullness of their backsides.

He had never been able to understand oyibo people and their obsession with boyish figures. Not that he had anything against lepacious women. All he asked, if it wasn’t too much trouble, was that they stuck out in the places where women were supposed to stick out.

Hoppy Easter Blog Hop Giveaway

AND THE WINNERS ARE TAMIE AND FAVORSHEART!

It's time for the Hoppy Easter Blog Hop giveaway, hosted by the BlogHop Spot. Several authors and bloggers are taking part with various prizes to be won - see full list of participants in the blog hop.

Hoppy Easter Giveaway Hop

Happy Easter {in advance} to you all. So many good things have happening in my life and on my blog this year and I am very thankful. My novels, A Heart to Mend and A Love Rekindled, continue to do well at various retail outlets. Thanks for all the support and for commenting regularly too.

The Hoppy Easter giveaway hop is hosted by I Am a Reader Not a Writer and I want to use this opportunity to learn more about the picture above. Tell me more about Easter, eggs and bunnies and stand the chance to win a $10 cash prize!

Affairs of the Heart 1 - Married With Children

He watched her from across the hall, his eyes following her every move. Damn, she was beautiful! And she carried herself with the natural confidence of someone who knew she was beautiful. He wasn’t the only one watching her either. Men sitting next to their wives turned their heads as she walked past, but were careful not to look for too long. Young men sitting together nudged each other and stared openly.

They were at a wedding. He hated weddings. But his wife had dragged him along all the same, as usual. It seemed to him that not one Saturday could ever pass in Lagos without someone she knew getting married.

“They’re our good friends, Ebuka! We can’t not go to their niece’s wedding.”

It was funny how her friends always became ‘their’ friends whenever another wedding was imminent.

Winner of the Project Alert Charity Giveaway

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The Winner of the A Heart to Mend eBook is Reviewing Shelf, CONGRATULATIONS! I have sent her an email with a PDF copy of the book. If I get no reply in 48 hours a new winner will be announced.

Thank you to everyone who entered and took part in the Charity Hopping around the World giveaway. I appreciate all the comments and so also does Project Alert. The director and IT Personnel have both sent me emails to express their gratitude.

Nigerian Woman Dead in Oikos University Shooting

A lot of us Nigerian immigrants to the United States came seeking the American Dream. Some find it, others don't, most settle for a manageable medium. The chances of us dying in road accidents or childbirth reduce drastically, but other dangers lurk around the corner. One of them has to do with the gun ownership and safety issue in America. I confess, these random shootings freak me out sometimes. This particular death hits quite close. RIP Doris Chibuko and may your family be consoled.

Doris Chibuko, 40, was born in the state of Enugu, in eastern Nigeria. She went to law school and worked as a lawyer in Nigeria. She met Efanye in college, and in 2002 they were married in a big traditional Nigerian wedding. That same year, the couple immigrated to the United States, where they had three children who are now ages 3, 5 and 8.