Dear Myne,
I'm a 28yr old doctor in Nigeria. I've been under quite some pressure from my parents to get married, I would love to be married to but at least I won't marry myself.
It's always been my dream to specialize in the US, now I'm planning towards relocating. My parents feel I'm being unrealistic for taking such decision and that it could hamper my chances of getting a suitor. I believe my husband won't pass me by and would locate me wherever I am. I also feel, I could make a head start with my career while waiting for marriage.
Do you think I'm being unrealistic to believe this way? I need your advice.
Seriously can't understand why you want to get married.
ReplyDeleteYes, moving ahead with a specialized field will lower your chances of marrying a run-of-the-mill numbskull. Why do you care? Remember there is the possibility of marrying a colleague or something, I think that's what you should sell your parents.
Yes, I'm angry with you.
How can you worry about putting your career on hold? What if your husband-to-be lives in the US?
ReplyDeleteIn pursing your career, you'll definitely meet your husband.
Pray for the one God has chosen for it. Relocate!!!
You've said it yourself. Your husband can location you wherever. Naija o. America or even in the air! Live your life.
ReplyDeleteAre parents still doing this? In this day and age when we have folks acting all types of funny in marriages. You do not want your daughter on her two feet to avoid stories that touch? Dear, you better continue building your life, your husband will locate you.
ReplyDeleteLook at it this way, going for your specialty means that you meet a higher caliber of men. The higher you go, the fewer but that means better qulaity. Yes, I said it.
ReplyDeleteI want to be more realistic than previous commenters. Is it possible to do your specialty in Nigeria? I hear that uko di kwa abroad, scarcity of husband. Some ladies are even coming back to naija to find husband. So if you really want to get married soon, it may be better to find a school here and do it.
ReplyDeleteDo what you want to do.
ReplyDeleteAre you looking for a `husband`or a soulmate and life partner who you can grow with? Do you want someone who understands and supports your passion for medicine, or do you want someone that is seeking for a babymaker? You need to ask yourselves these questions. And honestly you are 28 years old, you have to live your life for yourself and not for your parents. Its about time.
ReplyDelete@Nonentity, she should forgo getting her life set up nicely to stay at home just to marry. Biko, you will not advice your sister like this na. Not that our own hospitals are not good but it is not easy getting the good practice that one would get abroad, here in Naija. I pray she goes off abroad, she will still get married at the right time. We get invites everyday for weddings abroad, "husband is not scarce". Let us not be spreading those tales please.
ReplyDeleteGo to church more, you will find him soon and pray pray pray!
ReplyDeleteWe need to be sincere here, this is nigeria not america. I won't tell you not to pursue your dreams but you only know what you want. MAJORITY of nigerian men like young women (below 30) and most who go for older women don't do it for love. The reason society places more pressure on women is because they have a lifespan to bear kids unlike men. The choice is yours.
ReplyDeletecontact me please, cos i've been prayin to have a woman of ur type
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