How to Determine Your Life Instead of Life Determining You

Giordana Toccaceli Reveals How to Determine Your Life Instead of Life Determining You

You are in full control of your own life path, no one else. Even when you feel as though life has a way of pulling you from one direction to another, you're still the one in control. The control is always in your hands, it's just up to you to use it. 

How to Truly Get Yourself Ready for a Relationship

When you’re single and looking for love, it’s not unusual to feel impatient to get out there and find the person of your dreams. But, as anyone who’s had a difficult relationship in the past will testify, rushing into something without knowing what you’re really looking for can be a bad idea.

Take some time to think about what you want, both in terms of the kind of person you want to be with and where you want the next relationship to lead. Are you looking for someone to share nights out and the weekends with, or are you looking for the beginning of your happily ever after? Use our tips to make sure you’re heading on the right path.

Little Habits that Help Boost Self-Esteem

Self-confidence is one of the most elusive, yet vital things we can learn to cultivate during our lifetime. At one point of another, most everyone, no matter their age, race, gender or creed, has battled with their self-confidence. Yet, while it’s a known universal struggle, many are uncomfortable discussing their personal experiences with it. Whether it’s body image issues, a poor sense of self, a disbelief in one’s abilities, or overcoming a difficult personal history, in order to improve self-confidence it’s important to address the three core areas.

Letting Go Of Things That No Longer Bring You Joy

Sometimes we hold onto things that instill no good feelings in us at all. These can be anything from material objects to emotions. We may hold onto them out of guilt, because of sentimental value or simply because we don’t know how to let them go. Today I’m going to try and help you alleviate some of the burdens you may be carrying. Here’s some inspiration on how to let go of things that no longer bring you joy.

Woman Posts Graphic Photos of Her Bruised Face After Domestic Violence By Boyfriend

37-year-old Angela Brower recently broke up with her boyfriend of 6 months after he became verbally and physically abusive towards her. On the day he came over to pick up his belongings, he attacked her, punched in the face so hard that she fainted.

When she regained consciousness, she says he then began beating her in the back of the head. She begged him to spare her life for her children, he stopped and she found a chance to run.

University Drop-outs, Drop-ins and Drive-by Schoolings by BabaWilly

I come from Nigeria where we love to see letters before and after our names. The problem is that letters come from Universities and study is both time consuming and mentally tasking. Why read when you can Azonto? Pepper souping, point and killing, shacking Gulder and watching Barcelona FC are much more relaxing in the tropical heat abi?

Sleep - A Farewell to Complaining by BabaWilly

Eureka! I have discovered the purpose of sleep! Such a simple revelation that makes you wonder why no one thought of this Nobel Prize winning explanation before. Sleep is designed to give human beings a break from complaining. Finito!

How I Cleared My Acne, One Zit at a Time! By Eva Alordiah

Isn’t it sweet that after so many months, that’d would be 6 years of battling severe Acne, i am suddenly getting great compliments on my skin? Who would have thought! Now i get the “Oh you are so fine” “Chai, God took his time to make you sha” “You are the girl i have been searching for” – Na so. Thank you gbogboyin! LOL.

The Principles of Courtship - How to Get What You Want [Part 1]

By Dolly Singh

Have you ever known someone who seems to be able to get everything they want? The ones who seem to breeze through life effortlessly, making up their own rules as they go along, unaffected to the mundane realities of everyday life?

How Do You Have Passion For What You Do?

By Gracie

At first I had wanted to become an international lawyer, then a banker and then later I had hoped to be a chartered accountant and had looked forward to it for a long time. To God be the glory, I am now a chartered accountant. Right now, I am restless; I just feel there is more to life than a 9-5 job. Yeah, a typical 9-5 job is a comfort zone in area of finances. You are guaranteed of getting paid every 30days. Still, no matter what, you are a visitor in your organization, not permanent guests.

9 Steps To Empowering Yourself As A Woman

For most of us women, we have to struggle to discover ourselves and who we are in our personal circles and in society as a whole. Some books want us to act like ladies while thinking like men, others want us to be B*tches in order to get ahead. But at the end of the day, we are women and we just want to be ourselves. No shoes are as comfortable as the ones we choose for ourselves.

30 Things Every Woman Should Know By the Time She Turns 30

By Oluwaseyi Obasi

We already shared a post here on what every woman should have by the time she turns 30. However, in addition to what she should have, there are certain key things a woman should know by the time she turns 30. Below are 30 things she should know by the time she turns 30.

You Are More Beautiful Than You Think - Dove

I first understood what it meant as a girl to have others judge your physical looks. It was in my junior secondary school, we were in a group and the other girls were talking about how pretty each of them looked, from the hair, eye brows, nose and mouth, and how they felt this would determine their chances with being popular with the boys.

What's That Look On Your Face?

By Atala,

The human face is capable of an amazing variety of expressions; smiles of joy; frowns of anger; grimaces of disgust and raised eyebrows of surprise. And just as a picture is worth a thousand words, so it is that these expressions do a wonderful job of communicating how we feel, sometimes more than anything that we could ever say.

To Women Who Constantly Complain But Never Change

By Jai Stone

Dear Sista Complains A Lot: There is something that I’ve been wanting to say to you and I finally think it’s time. I’m hoping that you can hear me over your constant grumbles of discontent. I’m praying that you can put aside your finger pointing, wailing and yammering for just a few minutes and process what I have to say.

The honest truth is that no matter how much time you spend “venting,” whining or complaining, the only person that can change your situation is you. I’m sorry, but it’s my turn to complain. You need to know that talk without action is just a bunch of noise.

If you are reading this letter and you are not sure if it applies to you, there are a few clear signs that you’re a Constant Complainer: If you call your friends and they don’t answer or call you back. When your sister or best friends constantly says, “Are we back on this subject again?” If your Mama always says, “Baby, just let that go already!” Or, lastly, if your co-workers have stopped inviting you to lunch and wrap things up fast when they see you coming. Those are all sure signs that you are stuck on the “Gripes & Groans” station and you need to change the channel fast.

How do I know, well I’ve seen the effects up close and personal. All my life I’ve watched the women around me complain about their lives. They were too afraid or too stubborn to change their circumstances, so they opted to just be angry and complain about them. I watched them as they trudged off to jobs they hated, cussed at kids that hated them and clung to sorry men that didn’t care about them. I watched these women who appeared to be strong cower in the corners of their lives and refuse to step into the light.

Taking You From Friend to Fiancee

Guess how popular this book will be? I saw this cover, and the blurb below, and could only laugh. Why I am laughing? That subtitle is just classic, "Get him to want you as much as you want him without letting him know that you want him to want you", especially the second part that I underlined. The back blurb goes into more detail...