Dear Myne - Is He Planning To Ask Me To Marry Him For My Money?

My boyfriend and I have been dating for nearly a year now and because we agreed it was a serious relationship from the outset, we both know it may be time to take the next step and start discussing marriage. I am 26years old and ready, can't wait to move out of my parents house and start making my own home.

Dear Myne - How Do I Know For Sure He's The One For Me?

Hi Myne, I have been reading your posts for a while now and i was wondering if you could give me some advice regarding my current dilenma. I met a wonderful young man a year ago and now we are discussing marriage and the future. Me and this young man has come a long way but i am fearful and not 100% sure that he is the one for me.

Dear Myne - Girls Always Keep Putting Me In The Friend Zone

Now I seriously don't know what is wrong but every lady I meet and want something serious from, relationship, they place me on the friendship zone, they only comment that am a nice guy with a good character and so on, but it just ends there.

Dear Myne - My Boyfriend Has Proposed But I Have Big Doubts

Dear Myne, I hope you see this quickly and respond as soon as you can. Post it on your blog if possible cos i need other people to comment and advise me about this issue. I have been dating this guy for a while now. Quite frankly, its been a turbulent time for us both but especially for me. we have had serial arguments, quarrels, break-ups and every time we broke up i would swear it to be the last and even get to dating other guys but he always comes back and somehow we are still together.

Dear Myne - We're Friends With Benefits But I Want More?

Dear Myne, I am dating this guy and it’s a long distance relationship. He’s in a different state from me. Well for a couple of months, he hasn’t called or even texted me. We have been dating for ten months now and I last saw him December. When he decides to call me with night call, its only for sex chats and once he’s done he tells me it’s late that I should go to bed and he cuts the line.

Dear Myne - My Parents Won't Accept My Older Fiance

Hello Myne..... I'm 28 and a single parent. My son is 8yrs old. I'm in love with a much older man. We've known since 2011, he has proposed, honestly I accepted, because I care so much about him. I'm young, independent, self employed. My parents won't accept and I've had more than enough heart breaks from younger guys. Please dear Myne, he is 53 and divorced. Please advice.

Dear Myne - I am Jealous of My Husband's Ex-Girlfriend

Hello Myne, I'll be glad if you can put this on romance meets life, I want to know if I'm alone on this. I've been married going on a year and only recently found out three weeks ago to be precise, that one of our mutual friends used to date my husband.

Dear Myne - These Unwelcome Visitors Have Refused To Leave My Home

I wish this was fiction but it isn’t. I can’t vividly put everything on paper, so I’ll try to make it short. I’m a guy trying to make a decent living in the hustle and hustle chaos of Lagos like most people. I stay alone in a room self-contained apartment somewhere in the Lekki corridor. Those who know Lekki can agree with me it’s plagued with unreasonably astronomical rent. One day out of the blue my childhood friend called. He is in Lagos with the family somewhere around Ikotun. I promptly cleared my calendar and paid them a visit.

Dear Myne - My Husband is Controlling and Talks Down to Me

I have been married for about 4yrs. I really did’nt know him very well before we got married. I knew him from church as a good guy. He is a very good christain and prayerful. The problem is he complains about everything I do, I am expecting our 2nd baby even when I was pregnant with our 1st child I told him I don’t want him to be in the hospital with me because he never has anything good to say to me only finding faults.

Dear Myne - Has My Boyfriend Been Pretending All Along?

Hi Myne, Pls kindly share this on your blog. I need people's opinion. Thank you. I have this problem and its really killing me right inside and I really can't stop thinking about it.

I have been dating this guy for 8 months but I recently broke up with him because I think its the right thing to do. Reason is because he never calls to check how I am doing and when I said never I mean NEVER. I am always the one calling and texting him.

Dear Myne - How Do I Handle Unfriendly Sisters-in-Law to be?

DEAR MYNE, I'm in my late twenties, in a serious relationship but need people's advise on how to handle some issues in my relationship.  Firstly, his younger sisters - my fiancé is the only boy in a family of 5. His sisters were receptive when i first met them, but after like some months of meeting them, they changed and I don't know the reasons for that.

Dear Myne - He is a Widow and a lot Older Than Me

I totally love your blog i learn i a lot of things from almost all your post and your readers comments that's why i think i can seek advice from you. This is my story. I am a 25 year old girl just trying to make herself happy. I have not been in a relationship for almost a year now as i just wanted to be on my own, i have gone on a few dates, and have a couple of toasters around but there is one man who has kinda caught my heart.

Dear Myne - Should I Date his Friend?

Hey Myne, So I usually agree with majority of the comments that your readers leave with relationship advice. So I thought maybe they could help me with recent matter I am dealing with.

So I have been talking to this guy called “B” for little over a year.  In B’s past relationships it appears as if women have always pressed him about getting married. Thus earlier in our dating history B would always drop sly remarks about not being ready for marriage.  Oddly enough, I do not remember ever bringing up the topic of marriage. Nevertheless, I am of age so I guess he could sense that sooner or later we would have to cross that bridge.

Dear Myne - I Find it Difficult Making Emotional Attachments

I am an avid reader of your blog and find responses by readers quite insightful, maybe they can help with my dilemmas. Its in plural because they are more than one.

First is, I find it difficult to continue be emotionally engaged with people. I am not talking of sentimental love, but emotional engagement. Maybe I should clarify, people regard me as loving, nice and warm and they want to come near, but after awhile I feel drained. Even in a relationship, I get tired easily and just want to be alone. I have had 2 serious relationships and I can say they ended due to self-sabotage.

Dear Myne - How Do I Teach My Wife How To Be Seductive?

I am married less than a year, and have a challenge. I would like to hear your opinion on it. I had been dating for about 2years prior to marriage, although bulk of it was long distance, we still found time to visit each other though and spend weeks / weekends together. During the course of her being away, I met another lady who for want of a better word, had a magnetic sex appeal. We hit it off immediately and although the relationship was short-lived, it was full of raw, animal passion and we could not get our hands off each other.

Dear Myne - Is It Time to Move On From My Boyfriend?

I seriously don’t know what I am planning to do with the next phase in my life. I am 28. And, I seriously need some suggestions so that I can move forward in life. After reading through your blog posts I have come to a conclusion that I write to you and check the reader’s feedback. So that if the guy I am currently seeing is not for me am leaving everything we had aside and moving forward with what life has to offer me .

Dear Myne - I am 30 and Single and Losing Faith

I gave my life to Jesus in my final year in school 2007, and since than I’ve stayed with God faithfully. I am born again and serving God faithfully, I judge him faithful who has kept me this far. Am 30 years old, single and never been married. Every year of my life men come in and out of my life, they come in batches asking my hand in marriage but after praying to God to choose the best for me none will eventually marry me (reason that I refuse to have sex with them that’s for some, while others won’t say why they left).

I really want to keep myself till my wedding night though I am no longer a virgin (lost it in school before i gave my live to Christ). I am tired because this challenge is really depressing me and is affecting my walk with God seriously. I don’t want this batch upon batches of suitors again, I just want my own HUSBAND to come. Please pray for me I am really loosing hope.

What else can I do to keep hope and faith alive?

Dear Myne - I Don't Want to Keep the Pregnancy, My Boyfriend Does

I'm about 4 weeks preggers for my boyfriend. We've been dating for close to a year and planning to get married by December '13/January '14. We've been planning our wedding and attending pre-marital counselling at Church though we're not formally engaged (he did not propose with a ring, that is).

The problem is, I mistakenly got pregnant. Yea, it was out of carelessness. We are one of the most careful people ( so I thought) and I'm so disappointed in myself. Right now, I feel so much regret, anger and resentment towards my boyfriend. I'm not happy to continue this for 9 months.

I immediately decided to abort the baby, but my boyfriend is unsupportive. He says his ex-girlfriend had an abortion in his university days and he promised never to do such again. I'm devastated because I'm not ready for kids right now. We both live in the US and my career is just starting. I just started a masters which is time-consuming and also interviewing with top oil & gas companies with good responses so far. No company will take a pregnant lady seriously. (Btw, I'm 26). I want to have a great career without hindrance.

Dear Myne - My Girlfriend is Tied to Her Mother's Apron Strings

Hi Myne, I'm in a little of a problem and need advice. I am ready to get married and I've been dating a friend for about 7mths. She's been supportive and we click in most issues but I'm not sure I want to be with her anymore. She can't cook and at 30 is still tied firmly to her mom's apron strings. She can't make 1 decision without consulting her mom, explaining her mom feels left out if she doesn't consult her.

I think that if I marry her, I would get irritated very soon and cheat, either because another woman offers good food or because "my wife's" mom's hold exists through the marriage. Also, my girlfriend had a little roue reputation. I wasn't really bothered about that. But will I, one day?

Dear Myne - How Can I Improve my Marital Sex Life?

Dear Myne, it's about my husband, no he's not unfaithful but I fear he prefers other women to me.I don't hate my body, but I do have self image concerns that do affect our marriage bed and make it hard for me to really loosen up and let go, my husband has some issues that really hurt me. I bothers me that he loves TV shows with sex and nudity. I have addressed them to him, but he denies them and refuses to change.

It is hard for me to accept that he finds my baby-worn body and scarred face attractive and sexy when he has no problem watching the naked women in Game of Thrones and other such mainstream videos. He says he does find me attractive, but couple that with his rarely initiating sex in bed and even more rarely taking the time and effort to bring me to climax and I feel downright horrible.

I do most of the initiating. I do most of the work. I've never refused him, but I've been refused plenty. I have gone to elders in the church and nothing changes because mainstream movies aren't offically porn and thus it's not a sin issue, but a heart issue I have to wait on God to deal with.

In the meantime, I'm sick of over a decade of dealing with this and while I still will not refuse my husband, I really don't want to put the effort into our sex life anymore. I feel so horrible now, I have a hard time looking into my husband's eyes.